Hi, I am writing this post pleading for any advice and help anyone has for helping my brother find a way out of the hole he is in.
The story is as follows:
A few years ago my sister took her own life which has had an impact on our family in such a major way, me and my other siblings apart from one brother are doing okay mentally and have our lives in order. My little brother who is 20 has turned into a bullying, depressed, anxious, vicious, aggressive, pessimistic who doesn't want to do anything, they way he treats my parents is beyond belief, I know he is still hurting so bad from what happened, it is getting bad where he has these episodes of turning into a crazy person and letting out trapped emotions it seems like, we as a family know he needs to get counselling. My parents are both old and he is breaking my mum to the point where she is not living any quality of life. He calls my parents names like fat, disabled every swear word imaginable, tells me to go and die in the military etc. He needs a turning point in his life but there doesn't seem like there is ever going to be one with him being the way he is, he is a weed smoker and has been off it for the past week or so which is good, but the way he treats people Is unbelievably bad and he needs to seek help. My older brother has moved out and I have said to my parents I cannot even come home anymore because he makes my time there so bad, he always feels bad after he is the way he is to people so my mum says, but he will continue to wear people down and say the most horrible things.
Does anyone have any advice on how to get him to go and get some help, we've tried so hard but he seems to be pushing everyone away? Any advice on how my parents need to act or treat him? They are both old and he is breaking my mum to the point where she is not living any quality of life. (he calls my parents names like fat, disabled every swear word imaginable, tells me to go and die in the military etc).