Welcome to the forum.
I wish this was not the case but sadly I am able to relate to some of what you have said. For you to go to the trouble of posting, my guess is that this whole episode still hurts a lot.
I don't know if any of the following will help, but perhaps these are a few things to bear in mind.
- None of us truly know what the other person is going through or how they are really feeling inside
- Did you disclose to the other person just how much you were upset after they unintentionally/intentionally hurt you ? As seeing someone else very upset as a result of ones own actions can be very upsetting for both parties, particularly if one party feels that they have let the other down or not managed to meet/maintain their own standards as to what they would consider to be acceptable and reasonable ?
- It is entirely possible for things to be said or messages to be conveyed that were not meant to cause any offence or were conceivably made as a consequence of what was happening at the time to the other person when they might not have communicated the same message or in the same way on a different day.
All of the above is particularly difficult to handle when one party no longer wants to communicate and has effectively adopted a "fly away approach" to the whole thing. Potentially focusing solely on themselves and unable to consider how the other person might feel by their actions. Not either appreciating or possibly even realising the ongoing pain and suffering that the other party still feels when all they want to do is understand what happened or explain their own actions and responses or convey how they still feel. This can be so emotionally painful which seemingly only time seems to heal.
Whilst we are all different, perhaps some people feel that reconciliation is just too painful to contemplate and for them avoiding the issue is the only way that they can come to terms with the pain or disappointment that they still feel, possibly this is the only method that they know. Whilst others recognise the value and crucial importance of words such as reconciliation, understanding, dialogue, patience and forgiveness in an attempt to move on and come to a place of peace and harmony both with the other person as well as and more importantly within themselves.
I hope some of what I have said will help you, as I do know how you feel.