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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby sasom » Mon Sep 30, 2019 10:14 am

Hi guys and girls. My name is Sasha, i'm 33 and I'm from Austria.

I've been handling and battling depression and anxiety for the better part of 16 years now. You know, it has it's ups and downs, but I did manage to get actual help 2 years ago and things have been improving since there.

I'm not 100% sure what I hope to find in this community, but I would love to learn more about what makes people "tick" and how to best handle the issues we have.

Take care and be good to eachother!

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby nightofjoy » Wed Oct 30, 2019 12:40 pm

48 years old. UK.

Started with mental health issues as a kid, around 10. Had a breakdown in my teens, pulled it back, started late but educated myself after missing a lot of school in my younger years. Found myself in a decent career, freelancing, which was ideal. Managed to work around 50% of the time until a few years ago. I mean, not like part time work, but I'd work until being around people and the weight of life became too much, then I'd have to let my illness have it's time until I felt strong enough to go out into the world again.

I've found myself in an impossible situation the last few years, detailed in my longer post in the newbies room. Thanks for listening.

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby padkins78 » Sat Nov 09, 2019 8:56 pm

Hi, I'm brand new to this site as well as depression alongside some serious anxiety. So I'm 41 with 6, 4, and 2 yr old girls. My girlfriend and I have been together 7 years and have had our ups and downs. So over the last 3 months she cheated on me 3 times with 5 different people, the last of which 2 weeks ago was with my oldest brother and his wife. Idk what to do! Everything inside me screams leave or do the same to her but another little part still screams stay in there she can change or do it for the girls. She is 29 years old and has been battling addiction for a few years now. I want to be supportive of her recovery so she can be there for our girls but I'm so hurt that I've LITERALLY shoved all that to another part in my brain just so I can function. I've thought about all of it, suicide, my girls need me so thats outta the question. Leaving her, she wouls spiral out of control and it would be only a matter of time before the unthinkable happens. Stay with her, this is the one I've been doing. It's fuckin hard. I'm constantly feeling pressure and a empty feeling on my chest alongside the headaches, moodswings, and "daydreaming". This CANNOT be healthy, I don't know what to do. Has anyone got some advice. None of my loved ones knows so I've also been dealing with this alone.

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby samwamm » Sun Nov 10, 2019 4:30 am

I'm so complex i never know what to say when someone asks me to talk about myself.

Every aspect of me is different to the norm in some way.

Normally I need some sort of category to talk about to narrow it down.

And asking about my likes and dislikes doesn't help either.

It makes it very difficult to converse with normal or even weird people.

I'm like an alien species and only those who've known me a while understand the language.

I often find myself having to have an hour's lecture to explain my point of view because it's not similar enough in any one part to anything they understand.

-and oh boy do i hate it when people assume.

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby lettie » Fri Nov 15, 2019 10:30 pm

Hello! I am a 41 year single mum. I have had a lot of years figuring out what is the matter with me?? I been diagnosed depression, anxiety disorder and feeling worthless. I had 3 break downs recent was last year, I also have signs of PTSD ( not diagnosed ). Recently I have realise my abuser is my mum. I have cut her out and blocked my phones and blocked my little brother phone as i is like her I can't be around him. I have a 9 year boy I can't let her around him, i will take the emotional abuse but she is not touching my son.
My mum is covert narcissistic abuser and a manipulatior, has lied about everything she forgets what she has lie in the first place. I been having nightmares someone was trying to kill, that person had no face! sometimes I have no idea what she will be when these faces will come up ( if that makes any sense).
Half of me it's all truth but half of me thinks I can't be try but no one will believe me, other people thinks she is amazing. Sometimes I just want a proffessional that it's true, I do not trust myself. I have been diagnosed of IBS, I have be careful what I eat but recently anything I eat I feel sick, tight stomach or stomach ache or pains, tension headaches this is mainly from my anxiety.
When I am thinking or writing this message to you, all of this symptoms all come up.
I have been reading some books and watched a video with Mederith Miller about narcissistic abuse, I feel I need to understand so I can be able to heal me! I had deny this abuse all of my life and now I don't know you I am any more.
But I feel very scared about my future.
Thankyou for reading my message

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby kayzee » Tue Nov 19, 2019 1:47 am

I am new to the forum. I am attempting, once again, to live without antidepressants. I have taken them since 1993 for the majority of time. I am sick of getting fat. I am determined to get through this. I stopped about 2 months ago and i still have brain zaps once in a while. My biggest problem so far is not depression, but weird anxiety. I have the coping skills of a 5 year old with the flu. If I can't find my favorite coffee cup I'm almost in tears. If I make a mistake (forget to buy something at the store) I berate myself and feel stupid and horrible for hours. I worry about crazy things and I wake up with a leaden "despair" in my stomach. I know it's not REAL and I tell myself it's misplaced chemistry or something. But I want to live without antidepressants and live WELL so I am trying to figure out if it can be done. Maybe my brain is just damaged and I can't function without the darn medication. Anyway - here I am. I am in my 60's and retired.

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby softnoodles » Fri Nov 22, 2019 10:30 pm

I'm new to the site but have been experiencing mental health issues for most of my life. Trouble is now there is no help available. My last big crisis was about 2 years ago and I got bounced around the 'crisis system' for a while until I was spat out and left to rot again. I couldn't even find any support when I was prepared to go privately.
Anyway, I've managed to muddle along until the last few weeks.
I'm not in a good place but where can you turn? There is nowhere.

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby pmcp80 » Sat Nov 30, 2019 9:53 am

Hello everyone,

I'm a new user from Scotland (although I'm abroad for work now) and I'm here because I've noticed that I ended up being quite lonely. I do have my wife - fortunately enough - but I don't have any other social interaction apart from work. And since I'm an adult who's working in temporary teams (I'm always "shuffled around" by my company, and have loved in 17 different cities over the last 8 years... I'm glad my wife has a remote job), I don't know where, when, and with whom I can socialize. And it's taking a heavier and heavier toll, as I'm not able to find pleasure in many things I use to like, as I have noone to share them with.

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby zeldanut93 » Thu Dec 05, 2019 9:15 pm

Hi! My story is a bit of an interesting one.

Imagine being depressed for most if your life (I'm 26 now, and I know I've at least been depressed by age 7), but not knowing it. Thinking this giant pit in your soul was normal, and you were weak for not being able to deal with it? Imagine having intense emotional numbness for this entire time, to the point where you flat out forgot what happiness was? Where you thought sadness *was* happiness. Imagine outright hating yourself for this entire time. Then.... you realize it's not all your fault. It's not normal. Something is wrong. Then imagine the one person that showed you all this, the one person who you could trust, turned her back on you, then blamed you for her own depression. And that being the only person you've ever truly loved. Imagine not being able to tell your mom, because she threatens to call 911 over me just feeling a bit down. And your dad being distant. My only real escape is video games. The one thing I can almost say I dont objectively suck at. And imagine being emotionally manipulated by your mother and essentially ignored by your father. And just not fitting in with your entire family.

This... is what I've been going through my entire life. I'm done feeling this horrible, empty pit. But aside from gaming, I've got nothing else to fill it with. I hate myself still. Cant crawl out of this pit. To top it off, I'm autistic. Asperger's, to be more specific. I dont make friends easy. And I'm very cautious about it, too.... because that one friend I had? It destroyed me when she left. Still hurts, and that was a year ago. I cant really go through that again. I was in a stronger place then than I am now. I cant imagine what another round would do to me now. Essentially I'm in a position where progress scares me, and hurts from memories. Sliding slowly backwards day by day. And that's just my personal life. Work is complete anti-employee crap. I cant get out. Feel like a failure 24/7. Not appreciated. Another guy here with depression gets preferential treatment. No one seems to care about me or how I feel. Story of my life I guess.

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Re: Tell Me Something About You

Postby mart67 » Tue Jan 14, 2020 3:17 pm

Hi I'm 42 father of 6 happily married. Loving family but one of my son's has a serious issue which I need help with hopefully some help on here.

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