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Newbie who is falling and doesn't see it every stopping

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Newbie who is falling and doesn't see it every stopping

Postby almostoverwhelmedbyitall » Tue Feb 05, 2019 4:25 pm


I'm new to this site (or any site like this to be honest). I'm 45 and feel the constant pressure of what life is throwing at me too much to bare much longer. All of which probably down to some poor and very poor choices I'd made in the past but they range from crushing financial problems to an ex-wife from hell making my life a total misery and using my love for the children against me.

I've taken to hating the "comfort" words of "call Samaritans, seek help".. Seek help? How can I see help when there is no one who can help me. No hope and no light at the end of the tunnel. From where I sit now all I see is a devastating train wreck slowly unfolding that will destroy me and there is nothing I can do to stop it.

Heavy I know but I didn't know what else to do. I must get it out. :(

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Re: Newbie who is falling and doesn't see it every stopping

Postby trying101 » Fri Mar 01, 2019 8:42 pm

I agree with you regarding the regurgitated "seek help" and "call Samaritans" as I too find it so unhelpful and yet all avenues lead to these two phrases. No matter what resource I go to or alternative approaches I take it's like a constant dead-end with the phrase of "seek professional help". What could someone on the end of a phone possibly say that would "help". My GP has 12 minutes to provide me with help and it would take 12 minutes for me to even locate what the root problem is. Maybe we need to consider what we want from 'help'? Doesn't sound like your ex-wife can be fixed and your reactions or emotional response to her may be very justified and not you having mental health issues.

Can I ask what you think it means when you say will "destroy me"? Because it sounds like you possibly know what could reduce your symptoms or helplessness but don't want to live with the consequences.

Sorry I've just noticed that I am doing what all sources of help ultimately do...ask inane questions that don't actually help.

Look I feel the same way as you do. Honestly, I've come on this website and I've never used forums before but I read your post and it's just how I feel.I feel like the pressures from life everyone else copes with but everything seems to be the proverbial straw that is going to snap me! I don't even have the will or energy to look for another approach to problems/life because I will come across more problems.

I'm 33 years old and have two young children and have a supportive husband but I am here too feeling like I'm on the first-class section of the train you're on too. Just got no choice really to sit back like it's someone else's life and problems and watch it all explode.
They say misery loves company and that's all I can offer you.

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Re: Newbie who is falling and doesn't see it every stopping

Postby vitasw » Sun Mar 03, 2019 2:37 pm


Yeah, the blanket statement of "seek help" is often very hollow, as you say, what help? From who? Particularly as this statement is often portrayed as the "solution". So many T.V. shows that depict mental illness are resolved when the person "seeks help", as if that is the end stage of recovering from mental illness rather than the beginning.

But I think there is still power in it, after all, depression makes us believe that there is no help, that we are alone and doomed and everything else is a lie. It's so hard to get out of that mindset (especially when we know that "help" is not the magic answer). I wish there were more specialised resources for people who have been through this before, or for a long time, a lot of "help" is centred on people for who this is new to.

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Re: Newbie who is falling and doesn't see it every stopping

Postby frankiegee » Tue Mar 12, 2019 3:55 pm

Hi there I’m FrankieGee I read your rant and I agree
There is nothing for people who need this service again and again
You just can’t get back to wear you left off
You have to start all over again ripping into very painful memories.
I am a fighter and I would like to make me happier.

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