Sorry to hear things are tough. You’re not moaning.
Try to look at it this way. Everybody - in some way - suffers.
Comparing our suffering with others is not helpful. It only creates guilt and doesn’t change our current situation.
To me, to ‘suffer well’ seems to demand a pressure from us, that ‘we must.... we need... we should... we ought do.... just get on with it’.
How about instead of ‘suffering well’, you could ‘soothe well’? What I am referring to is how well you can respond to your suffering.
Focus on the positives and on your achievements, only very gently push yourself to do what you know will help you feel better, allow yourself to rest and treat yourself with kindness and compassion.
You are coping so well, Deb. Much better than you could possibly realise I bet.
Allow yourself to take a breather. Pop out for a little stroll if you feel up to it tonight, else relax and do something you enjoy. Pop out tomorrow. It’s a new day.
You’re in my thoughts and prayers.
You take care, love Em xxx