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betterinrecovery
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The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby betterinrecovery » Thu Apr 22, 2021 8:03 pm

Hello!
I did post here a while ago, I was really frustrated with a habit of cluttering known as hoarding by some.
I have to say, I have made some progress in dealing with this problem.
It has not been easy and I have a way to go.
The key has been understanding the reasons why, I worked with an excellent and compassionate therapist.
The challenge goes on,
I would be happy to share more about my journey
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betterinrecovery
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Re: The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby betterinrecovery » Sat Apr 24, 2021 10:36 am

Well, the work goes on, today I am sorting out crockery and lots and pans.
Why so many ?
And why so hard to get rid?
I remember when we were children and we were down to the last cooking pot....and it sprang a leak.
We kids tried to fix it ourselves.
So now as an adult and I see a cooking pot in the sales....what do I do?
Buy it of course!!!!
Never mind that the cupboard is full of similar cooking pots :roll:
This may sound like a hard luck story,
but I am pretty sure many people can identify with this.

So, it's a lovely day, I will put my boxes of stuff outside and sort through,
Then comes the very difficult job of giving the things away.....
Wish me luck.
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betterinrecovery
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Re: The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby betterinrecovery » Wed Apr 28, 2021 6:53 am

I did manage to sort through some crockery :?

betterinrecovery
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Re: The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby betterinrecovery » Wed Apr 28, 2021 7:05 am

I posted all about it and then lost the post.
Never mind.
Presently, I am finding posting here to be a bit hit and miss, I am not sure why this is.

I picked up the CBT book Overcoming Hoarding.
I don't really go for self help CBT, but as hoarding is a practical as well as an emotional malaise, I shall have to try it out.
I have read chapter one...so far so good.

I didn't have to worry about people seeing the mess in the house, even before covid, people very rarely came to the house.

On a positive note, I have a house to live in, many people do not have this.
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epitaph
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Re: The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby epitaph » Wed Apr 28, 2021 7:21 am

Hello betterinrecovery,

Welcome back to the forum after your break.
Sorry, I've been meaning to post a reply for a while....

Due to the odd breakage as well as general laziness crockery (too much of) is never too much of a problem in our house. In fact we don't manage to have a single meal where everyone has the same pattern of plate! I know to some this might feel tragic, but we are so used to it no one seems to even notice :)

But boy some areas of the house and the garage are well overdue a massive clear out!

Whether the above makes you feel any better l have no clue ?

Understanding the reasons for ones behaviours (as you know) is an important first step, then attempting to do something about them is another little step......that can feel like a huge leap when successful.

Wishing you lots of Good Luck

beatricemom
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Re: The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby beatricemom » Wed Apr 28, 2021 12:15 pm

betterinrecovery wrote:Hello!
I did post here a while ago, I was really frustrated with a habit of cluttering known as hoarding by some.
I have to say, I have made some progress in dealing with this problem.
It has not been easy and I have a way to go.
The key has been understanding the reasons why, I worked with an excellent and compassionate therapist.
The challenge goes on,
I would be happy to share more about my journey
B


Hey! I am glad for every person who has positive dynamics of the state. Indeed, the key step in overcoming a problem is awareness and acceptance. As long as the person denies the problem, then there will be no positive shifts.

epitaph
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Re: The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby epitaph » Wed Apr 28, 2021 9:41 pm

Hello betterinrecovery,
As long as the person denies the problem, then there will be no positive shifts.

How very true, some can't even talk about it....which leaves lasting unresolved issues... A compassionate therapist? Everyone should readily have access to one of those...

Good luck

betterinrecovery
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Re: The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby betterinrecovery » Fri Apr 30, 2021 9:39 am

Thank you for your kind replies.
Clearing the stuff has been like climbing Everest.
It has been a long and difficult adventure.
To continue the metaphor, I have moved from base camp to camp 3 :D
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Re: The further adventures of the mountain of stuff

Postby epitaph » Fri Apr 30, 2021 6:31 pm

Camp3 - perhaps the really tricky part, the summit is in view, the reward within ones grasp, but so hard to get to ......hoping and wishing you don't fall....but if you do remembering that there will always be others who will readily support you :)

Take care...


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