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When is enough actually enough?

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janedoe321
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When is enough actually enough?

Postby janedoe321 » Thu Dec 06, 2018 1:17 pm

My husband finally admitted his depression in June 2016 after
suffering with depression for almost 14 years. Things have been up
and down over the past couple of years. He has trouble remembering his meds
but has been putting the effort in to exercise and eat well. I know he is trying but I had
hoped that things would be better than this by now.
Recently there has been a situation that has made me realise
how fragile and short life can be. I am consumed with the thought of
us ever being happy. Fantasies about being on my own and a better life
for myself and kids. I love him so much but something has to give!
Not sure what I’m looking for with this post. I really feel that I
deserve to be happy and feel like such a B***h for thinking about getting out like this.

claire81
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Joined: Wed Nov 28, 2018 9:15 am

Re: When is enough actually enough?

Postby claire81 » Thu Dec 06, 2018 2:19 pm

Hello, I think its normal to have 'escape fantasies' - I certainly have them and this forum is such a good place to get your feelings out without worrying that somebody is going to get upset or angry.

It must be so frustrating to have the hope of a diagnosis and a prescription and then another few years go by and still be unhappy. Do you have a good support network? 14 years is a long time to be in that situation - you must have the patience of a saint!

janedoe321
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Joined: Mon Jun 06, 2016 11:44 pm

Re: When is enough actually enough?

Postby janedoe321 » Thu Dec 06, 2018 3:09 pm

Thank you for your reply claire81. It has been a struggle. I don’t really have a support network but am thinking
about getting some counciling. I feel like I am emotionally detaching myself from my husband as it’s the only
way I can cope with how things are.

upwards-is-the-aim
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Joined: Tue Oct 09, 2018 9:16 pm

Re: When is enough actually enough?

Postby upwards-is-the-aim » Thu Dec 06, 2018 4:14 pm

If you can look after yourself you are better placed to then start to think about looking after your husband - or leave him - if that is what you feel that you need to do
Trying to help and be supportive to others on this forum is one of my attempts to reduce my own depression. Getting ourselves out of our own head circles is usually a good thing to do. Maybe try it yourself


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