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nomaybeyes
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Postby nomaybeyes » Fri Nov 09, 2018 6:54 pm

Hello

I am new here, just joined today. I have no one to talk to. I would just like to talk to someone without fear of judging. Everyone judges me all the time. I am sick and tired of it. I judge myself all the time. I dont know what to say. I have a very abusive marital partner and I want to get out of this relationship but am scared of the consequences - specially losing my kids because my partner always threatens me that I will be taken to court and my kids will be taken away from me forever. I dont want to lose my kids :(
I dont know what to do. I have no one to talk to. I just cry. Alone.

upwards-is-the-aim
Posts: 553
Joined: Tue Oct 09, 2018 9:16 pm

Re: Help

Postby upwards-is-the-aim » Sat Nov 10, 2018 12:08 am

Sounds crap

Welcome to the forum - it is a start for you

Do you think your partner would want to bring up the children ?

Because if not he is saying that to control you

And social services will be in no hurry to part them from mum and dad

Keep on chatting
Trying to help and be supportive to others on this forum is one of my attempts to reduce my own depression. Getting ourselves out of our own head circles is usually a good thing to do. Maybe try it yourself

ryecroft13
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Joined: Tue Nov 13, 2018 7:21 pm

Re: Help

Postby ryecroft13 » Fri Nov 23, 2018 7:57 pm

Hi,
New here too. Saw your post and wanted to give you a virtual hug.
Just wanted to say that I have been in your place and I ran and got into a refuge. Some of the consequences for us were awful (but times have changed since then) but looking back from 15 years since, I did the right thing. My now grown-up children have told me that I did the right thing for them too, even if the consequences, initially for them, were awful. We all have scars but we know they could have been deeper. We are incredibly close.
My advice is to look clearly at your circumstances and chances of change in your relationship. Talk to your doctor - tell them first because they can record it and will usually give you contacts who can help. If you do decide to get out, plan very carefully, including getting some sort of proof of the abuse out to somebody/organisation, to help when going through custody hearings. Please, please, if you are on the internet talking about an abusive partner, be careful. Even if you aren't in the U.K. the Womensaid site has good advice on covering your online tracks here https://www.womensaid.org.uk/cover-your-tracks-online/ and a charity/service like this is invaluable for discussing options, even if you don't want to leave.

Please don't give up, don't stop talking. You are worthy of a good life. You have love and talents and strength (anyone who can go through childbirth is flippin' strong) and are capable of joy, even if you can't see it right now.

rsxo
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Joined: Mon Apr 24, 2017 4:12 pm

Re: Help

Postby rsxo » Sun Nov 25, 2018 9:53 pm

Hi there,

Welcome nomaybeyes and ryecroft!x

Much love <3
RSxo <3

thenewkgb
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Joined: Fri Oct 05, 2018 8:28 pm

Re: Help

Postby thenewkgb » Mon Nov 26, 2018 9:46 pm

I'm here :oops:


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