penguin5 wrote:Hi hopeful79!
Firstly, thankyou so much for sharing your story! I'm sorry for what you've had to go through in the past, but also well done for getting through it with amazing strength despite having some struggles now - you've overcome so much!
There is quite obviously a lot of unsolved issues which need to be resolved, especially in relation to your husband and his daughters, which are unfairly effecting you (it does sound however that you've done everything that you can). Yes his ex-wife is hurting because of what happened, but that does not give her the right to effect the relationship he has with his children, but also the daughters should be old enough to be able to make up their own minds about their dad without it just being one sided - your husband probably needs to speak to them properly so everything is out in the air so that everything isn't bottled up and repressed.
It also sounds like his youngest daughter was perhaps, despite her age, upset at the fact that you would be busy looking after the new baby that you and her dad have together, that you wouldn't have as much time to spend with her. It's a shame that despite you helping her and almost treating her as your own, that she has lashed out at you like a child out of jealousy - and what she said about your baby at work was completely out of order, but that anger she had also needs to be questioned because that sounds like a lot of hatred.
By the sounds of it all though, the main issue is the complications with your husband and his daughters and once that has been resolved, things will be much easier in your household - but you and your husband also need to talk properly too. I know it sounds so easy to say that you just need to talk things out, but there seems to be anger due to unresolved issues - everyone needs to be honest with how they feel and why, which will be difficult to do so perhaps seek family counselling groups to guide things in the right direction! Please correct me if I'm wrong by the way, as none of this is meant to come across in the wrong way happy to talk if you need someone to talk to though, hope things are eventually resolved!
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