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Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

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sirhugo
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby sirhugo » Thu Nov 01, 2018 6:54 pm

I think ive seen this post somewhere before :lol:

andthistoomustpass
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Sun Nov 04, 2018 4:20 pm

:lol:

Diary entry.

3 social events this weekend. Skipped all three :( . On the plus side, I did go out and have fun mid-week, followed by a really enjoyable lunch with a friend a couple of days later. Not totally withdrawn. Out today, could face socialising but sitting reading in a coffee shop is a step forward from sitting at home. Might see a film in a bit.

deb1960
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby deb1960 » Tue Nov 06, 2018 11:29 am

Hi andthistoo

You sound positive and sitting reading in a café sounds like heaven to me

Deb x

andthistoomustpass
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Wed Nov 07, 2018 11:19 pm

Thanks Deb

You're right, it was nice. So was the film. Relaxing day. :)

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Sat Nov 10, 2018 5:25 pm

Diary entry

Point to remember.

The fear lifted for a little while this afternoon, the negative predictions weren't there.
I've felt that before but never been able to observe it in the same way.

I can always contest negative predictions with CBT or reframe the situation and that works, but it is still a struggle, the fear is still there, just not as powerful, I'm still trying to deny what I am feeling.

The absence of negative predictions felt different. Like a heavy weight had lifted, the fear just wasn't there. There was no need to contest my thoughts or reframe. There was no need to try to make positive predictions to counter the negative, that again brings the negative into some sort of reverse focus, by contesting it, I still feed it. This felt different. I felt free and it came from a change of my outlook, a change from within me.

I've understood the benefits of this intellectually for some time but I've never felt it and understood it at the same time before. I don't know how how I got there but I will continue doing work in this area in the hope that I can feel it again, nurture it, let that freedom grow.

The best thing about this is that I now have a sense of what life would be like without these negative predictions, without this constant fear and depression. I have something to aim at. :)

sirhugo
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby sirhugo » Sun Nov 11, 2018 5:10 pm

Well done my friend that’s excellent to hear

Was there anything in particular you were thinking or doing that could have triggered this more positive mindset?

andthistoomustpass
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Tue Nov 13, 2018 2:14 pm

Good question!

Trigger is the key word for me, it is not one thing but a culmination. Any changes like this are the result of my subconscious slow cooking the ideas I feed it over time. The ideas are legion but the heart of them is reminding myself that 90% of our experiences are perception. They are subjective, like my negative predictions. I think practicing taking a step to another viewpoint will be helpful.

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Tue Nov 13, 2018 2:34 pm

Diary entry

Took another step out of my downspell on Sunday by going out and socialising. I enjoyed it. Important to remember I enjoy these things despite what negative predictions have to say.

upwards-is-the-aim
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby upwards-is-the-aim » Tue Nov 13, 2018 10:39 pm

I that is why keeping a journal is good - and I like you sharing on here

Next weekend you can look back and think ...

Onwards and upwards
Trying to help and be supportive to others on this forum is one of my attempts to reduce my own depression. Getting ourselves out of our own head circles is usually a good thing to do. Maybe try it yourself

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Wed Nov 14, 2018 2:40 am

Err yeah... That's why I do it. ;)


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