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andthistoomustpass
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Sun May 27, 2018 10:49 pm

Targets... still not going so well but I forgive myself and will keep trying.

1. Attend a support group at least once per fortnight. Doing this
2. Continue to socialise at least once per week. Doing this
3. Spend at least 2 hours per week cleaning. Nope. Need to create new habit.
3. Walk home from work at least twice per week. Nope but am walking more. Need to create a new habit.
4. Cook at home at least three times per week. Nope. Need to create a new habit.
5. Meditate at least four times per week. Nope. Anxiety makes this really difficult. Again, need to create a new habit.

There has been some small progress towards meeting 2, 3 and 4 but have lacked motivation. The good news is that, whether it is the meds or the sunshine, my mood has picked up and I am starting to feel motivated to do things for me. Time will tell if I put these new feelings into practice.

deb1960
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby deb1960 » Mon May 28, 2018 8:53 pm

Number 3
Now there's a challenge. I hate housework, cooking, cleaning, gardening and anything I haven't mentioned. My husband's not much better though he often cooks. But when you're on your death bed you won't wish you'd done more housework.

Good for you on all you do.
Deb x

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Tue May 29, 2018 11:11 pm

Thanks Deb and very true.

I did sort the worst of my front garden today. Grass was nearly as tall as me :lol: Thought of trying to justify it as supporting a natural eco-system but that wasn't going to work. I was expecting the neighbours to form a mob if I didn't do something. :roll:

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby deb1960 » Tue Jun 05, 2018 7:37 am

Hi andthistoo

We tried having a section of the front garden as a meadow. Eco friendly and no work. We got a letter from the council. And there were we, thinking it was an area of natural beauty.

Well done you.

How's the meditation going?

Deb x

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Wed Jun 06, 2018 8:37 pm

Hi Deb

How's the meditation going? It's not :lol: Neither are my other tasks.

The good news it that the medication is having a good impact. Still in the same old thought patterns but they just aren't bringing me down. I really should tackle the habits and patterns while I can but so focused on work I don't have the energy or the attention span for much else. Work will ease off next month, should be able to find a bit more balance then. :)

How're you?

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby deb1960 » Wed Jun 06, 2018 8:56 pm

Hi andthistoo

Do you work fulltime. I only do 8 hours paid work. I do some voluntary work too. Paid work can be exhausting.

I have stuck to my meditation most days. But on hot sunny days I dedicate my life to sitting in the sun eating and drinking. Today is ones such day.

We can only do our best.

Take care
Deb x

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Thu Jun 07, 2018 10:34 pm

Hi Deb

I do work full time. It is very difficult and stressful because I have to interact with others constantly but it forces me out of my comfort zone and most days it is the only thing that forces me to get up and out. There have been times when work was impossible and times when it was very damaging but right now, overall, for me, it is beneficial although part time would be nice :) .

I'm still struggling massively with sleep and motivation but the meds are still doing there thing so I am not beating myself up or overly worrying about it. Almost living in the now! :)

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby deb1960 » Fri Jun 08, 2018 8:33 am

Hi andthistoo

Being mindful is so hard. I do manage my meditation most days and that must help a little.

I"m glad you're not beating yourself up. You do amazingly well. I worked 20 hours a week until 9 years ago. Finally I couldn't cope and was lucky enough to be in a position to stop work.

What is good is that we plod on.

Deb x

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby deb1960 » Wed Jun 13, 2018 9:43 am

Hi andthistoo

I wander if you're in contact with Em at all and if so how is she doing? I think of her, she's such a lovely person

Deb x

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Wed Jun 13, 2018 1:31 pm

Hi Deb

Em is doing as well as anyone could. She is as lovely and irrepressible as ever. Next time I message I will say you were asking.


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