GrannyV wrote:Do they just leave the forum to moderate itself. I would still encourage the sufferers and the suffered, to continue to help each other.
Thank you for your kind words, I can see your thinking behind this, I tend to genuinely always give without considering any expectations of return, if someone does say something nice I am often surprised and not expected.
I believe your comment above could be the closest explanation to how SANE may expect the forum to run! To moderate itself!.
As well as your comment encouraging members to continue to help each other, I feel could also be the goal that SANE hopes the forum to work as! On this comment I do see some benefit in this if this is the case. Members suffering and suffered could be one of the way's for others to seek the support they need. So also agree with you on this.
In light of what you had expressed above, I feel the exclusion of the PM option could be a way of SANE saying 'In order to receive the help or support you need, take it on the open forum where others may offer support than PMing one person' or could it be 'SANE are not aware of what is discussed in the PM underworld!, keeping discussions on the open forum allows SANE to monitor everything that isn't hidden'? Of course everyone this a thought and should not be taken as correct as I cannot speak for SANE and their real reasons. Its just a theory to all our continuous questions and thinking.
Yet I still feel the PM is always an important way of communicating to those who need it.
But I feel GannyV is correct, for members to support each other as we can, even if it s just a 'how are you feeling today' lets another member know that 'someone is thinking about them'. Don't let the absence of the PM dampen our spirits and affects supporting those in need as well as each other.
There is a lot of new members coming in SANE, yet a lot of these posts may not get answers. I wondered why this was? Yet there could be many reasons a well as trigger actions.
One of the contributory factors in joining the forum was because I was surprised of the amount of people seeking help and that mental health is increasing within society.
As a person who had experienced physical and verbal abuse by emotionally absent parents in childhood and today being an experienced existential therapist, general counselor, volunteer counselor and trainer for 2 well known emotional support charities regarding suicide and child abuse and protection.
I felt maybe I could offer some time offering support when I can.
A always take care