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I literally just made an account so I could comment on this!! I have the same problem!! It drives me crazy when I'm watching game of thrones and I just start thinking about all the naked women in almost every single episode. So rarely do they have naked men walking around and most the time, they're only half naked. Like another user said before me. I feel totally uncomfortable and like I could never compre to those women. And it sucks. Cause for the most part I like to think I'm pretty secure in myself. I know I have a nice body and what not..but it's hard. And then my boyfriend will joke me cause I don't care to watch all the ridiculous sex scenes and what not..and I just don't even understand the need to have them in almost every episode? Like geez..we get you're trying to appeal to the Male fanbase..but come on. I'm so happy that I'm not alone cause I was really feeling down and depressed about my thoughts on the subject, but reading these comments has really helped. So thank you everyone!
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I'm so glad I stumbled on this site and all the comments on the subject of boyfriends watching programs and films containing nudity.
It seems to be all naked women... No men which I think is the biggest issue... Women are still seen as sex objects. I bought this up with my boyfriend and his reply was... Well it's how it is.. always has been and always will be.. get used to it. It won't change. He did agree that it was unfair however
He also said it's because women are better to look at than men! But he would say that.. he's a man. When any naked women appear on TV(which is often) my heart pounds and I gett stressed and anxious. I usually turn off what ever is on. I just can't stand it
Why is there so much damn sexualisation of women?? It's on TV, internet, video games
Is there no way to stop this? Either equal things up.... Have males naked for a change... Males doing the stripping in strip clubs... Lap dancing clubs... Why is everything aimed at men! It's 2019 for heavens sale. It's time for a change... Equal male and female nudity or no nudity at all!
It seems to be all naked women... No men which I think is the biggest issue... Women are still seen as sex objects. I bought this up with my boyfriend and his reply was... Well it's how it is.. always has been and always will be.. get used to it. It won't change. He did agree that it was unfair however
He also said it's because women are better to look at than men! But he would say that.. he's a man. When any naked women appear on TV(which is often) my heart pounds and I gett stressed and anxious. I usually turn off what ever is on. I just can't stand it
Why is there so much damn sexualisation of women?? It's on TV, internet, video games
Is there no way to stop this? Either equal things up.... Have males naked for a change... Males doing the stripping in strip clubs... Lap dancing clubs... Why is everything aimed at men! It's 2019 for heavens sale. It's time for a change... Equal male and female nudity or no nudity at all!
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I’ve always thought I was the only person who felt this way. If I see images on TV, social media I get so angry and feel so ugly and insecure. I’m just fed up of all the unnecessary female nudity in things like game of thrones. I’m sick of seeing perfect boobs everywhere just for men’s enjoyment. Men don’t get made to feel this way as there’s hardly any male nudity. I don’t even want to go on holidays as there are topless women on the beaches. I’ve been made to feel not good enough for my whole 28 year marriage and left him in October 2017 but I’ve now met someone else and can’t carry on like this. We watched our first film The Flight together last night and opening scene is a woman with perfect fake boobs completely full frontal naked while male actor covered up. I can handle relevant nudity but this is for men to enjoy and makes us feet like shit and spoils my sex life as I feel I need to hide my body as I look nothing like them. It’s ruined my life so far but I don’t know how to stop it
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it works both ways, men get there supposed to have the perfect stomach, muscled, perfect hair / beard and feel the same when there on the beach.
as a guy i hate sex scenes / nudity unless there needed, in game of thrones they are as they fit the genre, in normal films al i wanna see is kissing and a bit of touching which leads to the bedroom then the scene should end.
ive noticed that newer films, sex scenes have got more explicit in the past 20 years, not to enhance the story but purely to say "hey look we have a hot sex scene", its also the same for violence and GFX.
i like the sharpe series with sean bean, the fight scenes clearly show the sword going under the arm but i dt care as there a good stories / actors.
a great film does not need sex or violence the way its portrayed nowadays, just the hint, the rest should be left to ur imagination.
the biggest problem with male / female self image is so called reality shows. love island is basically models, where are the fat or ugly people on them ???
soaps show people as either sex mad getting a diff person daily or the nerd / weirdo that wants the hot person but never gets any where with any1.
the above issues are already known, thats why so many company's are now using fat / scared none model types in adverts.
as a guy i hate sex scenes / nudity unless there needed, in game of thrones they are as they fit the genre, in normal films al i wanna see is kissing and a bit of touching which leads to the bedroom then the scene should end.
ive noticed that newer films, sex scenes have got more explicit in the past 20 years, not to enhance the story but purely to say "hey look we have a hot sex scene", its also the same for violence and GFX.
i like the sharpe series with sean bean, the fight scenes clearly show the sword going under the arm but i dt care as there a good stories / actors.
a great film does not need sex or violence the way its portrayed nowadays, just the hint, the rest should be left to ur imagination.
the biggest problem with male / female self image is so called reality shows. love island is basically models, where are the fat or ugly people on them ???
soaps show people as either sex mad getting a diff person daily or the nerd / weirdo that wants the hot person but never gets any where with any1.
the above issues are already known, thats why so many company's are now using fat / scared none model types in adverts.
Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in
actually anybody can be hot if they have confidence
even if its ' geek chic ' ! x x x
even if its ' geek chic ' ! x x x
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I am frustrated that this is considered a phobia.
I can't describe how much this affects my life. I am such a passionate and loving person - Like I put my fiancee over everything. I have zero interest in watching television shows, movies, etc. They have become nothing but vulgar disgusting filth for the most part. Almost every single show or movie I have tried to watch has a tit, an ass, etc, etc. I feel so uncomfortable around it. It's even worse when I am with my fiancee.
At the beginning of my relationship everything was perfect. I completely trusted him and everything was fine. Then slowly, I started noticing him checking out women when we go out, or I started noticing all of the disgusting shows he watched. I tried not to let it bother me, but I was lying to myself. I had to say something. I told him how it made me feel, and how it hurt my feelings that he was comfortable just laying beside me in a bed, watching some show with a girls boobs flapping around. I do not think it is respectful to me, or a relationship. If he was a single man, fine. You can do what you want, but I feel like when you decide to commit yourself to someone, there has to be some sort of line drawn. Since bringing that up years ago, we have mostly stopped watching any type of movie, and we never watch TV. I have zero interest.
It got worse because we have 2 kids now, one with special needs, and my confidence has slowly drifted away. I work from my home, and we rarely leave the house. I got to a point where I would cry because I felt so betrayed and hurt at times when we would go out and he will blatantly stare at someone, or do a complete 180 when a half dressed girl walked by.
Now he has started literally hating me. He belittles me almost on a daily basis, and I have to walk on egg shells with what I say. I do not trust him at all, and I constantly feel like he is waiting for me to walk away, so he can hurt me more.
He always brings up things, saying "This isn't normal" or "everyone else does this". He wants me to be fine with him watching other women parade around, and basically watch people have sex. Why is it normal for people to watch other people have sex?
He knows how it all makes me feel. He knows it hurts me, and he doesn't care. It's not like our personal life is lacking either.. I am exhausted. He sometimes wants to have sex 2, 3 or sometimes even 4 times a day. I always do it, and I don't complain.
He knows that I care about him, and I love him. I want to make him happy, and I completely cater my life to what he wants, other then 1 thing, which is watching these stupid shows or movies. And he treats me like literal dirt for thinking this way. It has gotten to a point where I am literally starting to feel worthless, because I read online, and apparently the majority of people have no issue with this. I want to say that I wish I felt the same as them, but I don't. He compares me to these people all the time, and I hate it. I hate being a minority in this thinking, but I truly do not think it is right. It's what the world is becoming, and it's sad.
I can't describe how much this affects my life. I am such a passionate and loving person - Like I put my fiancee over everything. I have zero interest in watching television shows, movies, etc. They have become nothing but vulgar disgusting filth for the most part. Almost every single show or movie I have tried to watch has a tit, an ass, etc, etc. I feel so uncomfortable around it. It's even worse when I am with my fiancee.
At the beginning of my relationship everything was perfect. I completely trusted him and everything was fine. Then slowly, I started noticing him checking out women when we go out, or I started noticing all of the disgusting shows he watched. I tried not to let it bother me, but I was lying to myself. I had to say something. I told him how it made me feel, and how it hurt my feelings that he was comfortable just laying beside me in a bed, watching some show with a girls boobs flapping around. I do not think it is respectful to me, or a relationship. If he was a single man, fine. You can do what you want, but I feel like when you decide to commit yourself to someone, there has to be some sort of line drawn. Since bringing that up years ago, we have mostly stopped watching any type of movie, and we never watch TV. I have zero interest.
It got worse because we have 2 kids now, one with special needs, and my confidence has slowly drifted away. I work from my home, and we rarely leave the house. I got to a point where I would cry because I felt so betrayed and hurt at times when we would go out and he will blatantly stare at someone, or do a complete 180 when a half dressed girl walked by.
Now he has started literally hating me. He belittles me almost on a daily basis, and I have to walk on egg shells with what I say. I do not trust him at all, and I constantly feel like he is waiting for me to walk away, so he can hurt me more.
He always brings up things, saying "This isn't normal" or "everyone else does this". He wants me to be fine with him watching other women parade around, and basically watch people have sex. Why is it normal for people to watch other people have sex?
He knows how it all makes me feel. He knows it hurts me, and he doesn't care. It's not like our personal life is lacking either.. I am exhausted. He sometimes wants to have sex 2, 3 or sometimes even 4 times a day. I always do it, and I don't complain.
He knows that I care about him, and I love him. I want to make him happy, and I completely cater my life to what he wants, other then 1 thing, which is watching these stupid shows or movies. And he treats me like literal dirt for thinking this way. It has gotten to a point where I am literally starting to feel worthless, because I read online, and apparently the majority of people have no issue with this. I want to say that I wish I felt the same as them, but I don't. He compares me to these people all the time, and I hate it. I hate being a minority in this thinking, but I truly do not think it is right. It's what the world is becoming, and it's sad.
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I just signed up so I could comment! I came across this site because I googled “I don’t like when my boyfriend watches porn” because I’m so sick of it being normalised so much, and being made to feel like I’m crazy. And then I came across this site - I have the same thoughts and feelings as you ladies. I’m 33 and it still plagues me and has done so my whole life. I’m so sick of being made to feel like it’s an illness in me, when I talk to any women I know they all hate porn and the soft porn on tV and movies and in everyday life, but they just try not to think about it or talk about it because they know they aren’t “supposed” to feel upset, and the world makes them feel crazy. Or they are too scared to be alone or confront their partners who tell them they are crazy. It’s our culture that is sick! Not us. Sure we may have anxiety and depression and whatever else, but honestly? If tables were turned on men, they too would have the same anxiety and depression. They say they don’t care but if they had to live and breathe the same objectification we do, they would be in a corner rocking. That’s what I feel like doing sometimes. I don’t want to leave the house with my boyfriend for fear of naked girls. And let me tell you, they are getting younger and younger and younger. And men are being primed to drool over younger than ever, even when they are fully grown men. It’s not normal or natural, as they like to tell us all. It’s that they have been brainwashed. Our whole society needs a clean up and overhaul of our culture.
I’m sick of feeling not good enough, I’m sick of women being reduced to body parts to lust over and to rate out of ten. Since when did sex become about objectifying a body? It’s supposed to be a special, spiritual act of self expression and love ( even if in a casual setting it should be based on two people who are attracted to the whole person! Not just a pair of tits or arse). It’s actually so depressing what sex and relationships have turned into. You’re not crazy ladies. Our culture is.
I’m sick of feeling not good enough, I’m sick of women being reduced to body parts to lust over and to rate out of ten. Since when did sex become about objectifying a body? It’s supposed to be a special, spiritual act of self expression and love ( even if in a casual setting it should be based on two people who are attracted to the whole person! Not just a pair of tits or arse). It’s actually so depressing what sex and relationships have turned into. You’re not crazy ladies. Our culture is.
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I am so glad i found this, i thought i was the only person in the world that would of been experiencing mental issues like this. I really need help, i have had 4 therapist and nothing seems to work. I. Am fearful of watching any film or programme in that has a risk of having naked women in it, sex scences etc. I also google the films and if they are not 'safe' i will refuse to watch them. If i deel brave and i just put a film on that sounds safe and something came on like boobs i would literally start shaking, crying and my heart would mound and i would feel so so sad and betrayed by it. I worry about newspapers and whats in them on page 3, i love holidays however i hate them with my boyfriend because its not safe, i hate the beach i hate the pool everyone in there thong bikinis or sunbatheing topleas i have to check to see if its safe and if its not i cry and run away and make my bf sit somewhere elae. I hate it, i hate that i cant have a normal life i just want to relax and sunbathe but i cant because i cant relax. I hate driving kn the summer when its warm because i worry what people are wearing like skimpy shorts. I hate the fact that i dont feel good enough and thats why i have major meltdowns i feel on edge every day i wonder what hes watching when hes at home, what he is thinking when he looks around. I just want to be me again; this all statted because of a stupid boy that i dated when i was 16 for 2 years and every time a man came on tele i would get abuse and hit for watching the tele and its esculated from there, i hate aocial media that causes issues i see photos and think i am glad my bf didnt see that i bet he would like that photo. Please please can anyone help me! Iv felt like this for years and i dont no what to do
Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in
I am so glad i found this, i thought i was the only person in the world that would of been experiencing mental issues like this. I really need help, i have had 4 therapist and nothing seems to work. I. Am fearful of watching any film or programme in that has a risk of having naked women in it, sex scences etc. I also google the films and if they are not 'safe' i will refuse to watch them. If i deel brave and i just put a film on that sounds safe and something came on like boobs i would literally start shaking, crying and my heart would mound and i would feel so so sad and betrayed by it. I worry about newspapers and whats in them on page 3, i love holidays however i hate them with my boyfriend because its not safe, i hate the beach i hate the pool everyone in there thong bikinis or sunbatheing topleas i have to check to see if its safe and if its not i cry and run away and make my bf sit somewhere elae. I hate it, i hate that i cant have a normal life i just want to relax and sunbathe but i cant because i cant relax. I hate driving kn the summer when its warm because i worry what people are wearing like skimpy shorts. I hate the fact that i dont feel good enough and thats why i have major meltdowns i feel on edge every day i wonder what hes watching when hes at home, what he is thinking when he looks around. I just want to be me again; this all statted because of a stupid boy that i dated when i was 16 for 2 years and every time a man came on tele i would get abuse and hit for watching the tele and its esculated from there, i hate aocial media that causes issues i see photos and think i am glad my bf didnt see that i bet he would like that photo. Please please can anyone help me! Iv felt like this for years and i dont no what to do
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I feel exactly the same as all of you. It's not just that, my boyfriend doesn't even care about the nakedness infarct he wishes it wasn't there for my sake because he knows how it makes me feel. But it actually hurts me, it makes me angry. I think it's because we work to hard to be seen as people as well, then these woman who have perfect lighting, edits and photo shops and in our faces in the screen, zoomed in on their tits. This happens too often. It makes me thing where the hell is the respect? I get it is a sex scene but at what point did this seem normal? And why always women not men? The producers of these series and films are the ones that make me angry. My ex was obsessed with GOT and Spartacus. That used to bother me laods because he didn't understand me or care for that matter. I have sleepless night for months because of it. How can I deal with this problem? I feel like I know where the roots come from too.
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