Hi and welcome to you both.
I'm still not sure how this place works and I've been here for ages
Basically, not a chat room and few regulars so don't expect instant responses.
Most people start a thread here or in the mutual support room and say a little of what is on their mind. That will resonate with someone else who may respond.
The only real rule here to to respect one another. Feel free to post as much or as little as you like and join in on any thread. Sometimes people will offer advice or a willing ear but don't feel bad if they don't, everyone here is dealing with their own stuff too.