tofler wrote:I can't see a single comment in this thread where i've told you to "think happy thoughts" or to "believe in yourself more". I've tried to suggest to you that perhaps you have tunnel vision about this issue and that viewing it from different perspectives might help you to get unstuck.
You're right though, therapy probably isn't going to work for you.
tofler wrote:I haven't inferred that at all. Your issues are psychological, not psychosomatic.
deb1960 wrote:Hi spoonyspoon
So it seems you're ugly and you can't get a girlfriend
I have a 38 year old son who has only had one relationship of a few weeks and that was more than ten year's ago. He did online dating but a few years ago decided the effort was too much. He would love to be in a relationship.
Given your lack of success I would suggest you do as he has. He goes out with his friends a lot, sees his family regularly. For holidays he either goes with family or on his own. He has a very pragmatic approach and gets as much from life as he can. I would suggest you give up on relationships for now at least. Try to make the best of what you have. I am having to try to make the best of my situation; living with chronic mental health problems that are at times excruciating. It takes many years to learn to make the best of a crap life but it beats suicide. This i can say from experience.
Wishing you well
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