Hi James, welcome.
I am new here too and have been welcomed with some kind words and useful advice. I guess what led me here in the 1st place was a need to seek the help of others, as I was no longer able to cope on my own. It's early days, but I've found by reading and relating to the posts on here and by writing openly about my experience, has made me feel a little better, knowing I was not alone anymore.
I guess there is no right or wrong way, just be respectful to others