Hi there, I hope someone out there can help me and advise me on the best course of action.
Long story short, I have been with my girlfriend for just under a year and although we hit it off very quickly and she mentioned future plans very early on, we have had several severe ups and downs.
My gf lost a very close family member a couple of years ago and although she plays down the impact I still believe she has not properly grieved the loss and will often go from being happy to extremely down. I have always been there for her and she will often reach out for me to reassure her or be with her to visit the grave etc.
In addition to this my gf has a very demanding career where she witnesses some distressing things and works tough shifts and I have noticed a correlation between her general happiness with it mainly being good between shifts and when she is away from her work.
So, in the last couple of weeks my gf has gone from trying to plan holidays with me, spending a lot of time with my son (from a previous relationship) and even just at the weekend was part of my family for an event. During Saturday she rang me several times whilst travelling between work and was fine, seemingly happy and suggesting future things together. I happened to disagree with something which was very trivial and she flew into a rage and said I was being diffcult and hung up on me. I decided to leave things untilt he following day and then tried to gloss over the disagreement but was met with continued hostility and a reluctance to attend the family event we had planned. Eventually she did come along and we were fine as if nothing was wrong, even going back to my house we were talking about the coming week and it was only when I suggested we spend some time together and caught up that night that she became defensive and said she was going to bed. She leapt her distance all night and when I tried to talk and go near her the following morning she fled my home and drove home without even getting dressed.
Since then, she has responded to any of my messages by saying she doesn't see a future with me and that I bring out a horrible side of her, that she wants to be on her own and that I should leaver her be. In the last day she has also blocked me on various forms so I cannot contact her, but have managed to send an email saying I was here for her.
I really don't know what to do, to go from being so deeply into the relationship just a week or so ago and even being part of my family and son's life just a few days ago to seemingly shutting me out and acting like our relationship is the cause of her unhappiness. I also fear that she blames me for her current unhappiness and when she tells friends and family they will form an unfair opinion and try to persuade her.
I am convinced she is suffering from both depression, such is her admitted unhappiness with her career and also still grieving the loss of a close relative. She was given tablets for anxiety a few months back but refuses to take them saying that I am the reason she feels like it. This has happened twice before and each time it is the same cycle of anger, me trying to reason and her pushing away to then being blocked. The previous time I left her be for a few days and she reached out to me but when I suggested she is doing the same she claimed this time it was over and I should move on.
My gf has been a major part of mine and my son;s life so any advice on how I can tackle this current situation would be greatly appreciated. It's so hard watching someone so close to you suffer and make you the reason for their current mindset and equally worrying that she may not come round.