Been on these forums a while and could do with a bit of advice.
My boyfriend has really severe depression- suicidal much of the time. He has a dependency on codeine and has recently stopped taking it, which has brought out his symptoms of depression. He feels that anti depressants don’t work and that codeine is the only thing that helps. On top of that he’s been on it manly for pain relief as he has a complicated medical issue.
He’s waiting for therapy from cmht but that could take months. In the mean time when he’s strong enough he sometimes says he might go private. But he’s really low and hasn’t got out of bed for two days, though he’s considering getting more codeine just to be able to get out of bed.
I don’t know how to help. I don’t want to ‘enable’ the problem but I also hate to see him struggling and suffering while he waits for other treatment.
Again, he’s tried all sorts of antidepressants and says none of them work. To give context he’s had depression since about the age of 17, but it got worse around 25. He’s 34. I know I can’t fix him, I have to look after myself- and I do, that I’m not alone, that the waiting lists are too long but it just feels really hard to know there’s not much out there on days like this. Or at least, that it feels there’s not much help. Maybe I’m wrong and someone can tell me different?
What else can I do?