Ariane, my ex’s cousin said something similar. He said my ex before he got married was never good at relationships. He isn’t Mr normal and is more like a free spirit. However, my ex was married for 10 years before his wife cheated on him and left him. In my situation, I think my ex has abandonment issues from past childhood trauma. When his marriage broke down, it made it worse. I believe my ex started a relationship with me in the belief it would last and was committed to me. But unfortunately, there were triggers that set off his abandonment issues and instead of accepting he had to face his issues and seek treatment, he preferred to break up with me and continue with the destructive pattern. He immediately started pursuing another woman the day after he ended it with me. He can’t be on his own ever. But when he gets close to someone, he gets scared of being abandoned so break up before his partner does it. So maybe it’s the same with your guy.
James, I feel for you. It is so hard, near impossible to heal and move on when you’re in constant contact with an ex. The only way is no contact. But I really don’t know what the answer is for you, except that one of you need to change job.
Have a lovely Sunday and be strong xx