I am so happy I have read this thread...it makes me realise that there are so many other people going through the same thing! My boyfriend of 6 months ended it out of the blue - with no warning. We had a perfect relationship - we were affectionate, travelled, laughed, were super close and never argued. He introduced me to his family pretty early on (within 3 weeks of meeting him) - so he definitely set the pace. He moved away (but we both agreed to keep the relationship going as we were in it for the long haul) and started a new job and has not been happy and has been down (I noticed a change), he became sad, moody and irritated at the slightest thing and said he was not happy with his job and living where he was and was just miserable. When I was out there, we had a great time. I was due to visit him the second time and all of a sudden out of the blue, he ended it. He said that I deserved someone better and that he was not good at relationships (although he has been in previous relationships). He said that when we are together, he sees that we are good for each other, but when I am not there, it is different - he becomes negative (total contradiction). He said that he cares for me a lot but is not in love with me (even though he was planning our future, talking about grown old together and kids etc a few days before). I was shocked and broken as I did not know where all this came from. His family think he is depressed because his actions have been erratic. A month on and he has not even told his family that we have broken up (his mother knows because I told her - we get on well, but have now decided to cut contact). I have had a mixed bag of emotions, I have tried to fight to save the relationship, but I am met by silence or the odd few words. Since he ended it 4 weeks ago (over the phone), he has almost cut all communication with me (he no longer initiates conversation). He says he is sorry that he has hurt me and let me down. He recently posted a cryptic message on social media about drowning in life. I care for him so much and these 4 weeks have been brutal! I have re-read every message over and over again trying to figure out what I did. But it is not me. We agreed to meet to talk in a few days...I hope I get some answers. Just so sad to see someone you care for (and supposedly cares for you) be so cold and distant.