honeytea wrote:Hi, read most of your post, thanks for sharing. There are a few things about your post that stand out to me. Mainly, you focus a lot on the fact that you're single a virgin. It comes up again and again and sounds like you've put a lot of energy into thinking and feeling like this is the pinnacle of success and normalcy. Why do you think this is? And what about the other parts of your life? You got a double degree by the age of 21 - that's huge. First and foremost you gotta work on those stress levels. Look into self help techniques for reducing stress, see if you can incorporate small things into your day to reduce stress. At the end of the day it's excess cortisol in the brain and going for a walk or mindfulness can reduce these stress chemicals heaps.
Several of my friends are on the autism spectrum and they're the most interesting and fun to be around people I know. They're not unable to socialise or have relationships or sex, they just see things differently to other people sometimes. Which makes them all really unique, surprising and good at whatever tasks they put their minds to. Maybe see a professional for a diagnosis. Knowing whether you are could be a step towards meeting other like minded people. Being shy isn't bad or something to feel ashamed about. Maybe you just need to find your people. I hope you find support on here that helps, even if just a bit.
minniemoo wrote:Are a lot of people in America constantly comparing themselves to others like this? I do it to some extent but this is on another level. I am so glad I’m definitely not a high achiever if it leads to this mindset. I would recommend that you figure out what you really want and go for that, then you won’t feel bad when others achieve good things as you will be busy working towards your own goals. You mention all these things that you don’t have but not what you are doing to try to fix them. Perhaps you could spend time volunteering and seeing how bad things can be for others too, helping others can make us feel better in the process, and it will help with loneliness.
minniemoo wrote:You say people there are judging you negatively about your situation, I would recommend not discussing how many girlfriends you’ve had or how many people you’ve slept with, unless it’s a best friend or very trusted family member, or therapist. No one I know would discuss this type of thing in general conversation.
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