You were getting along well with your former therapist and this resulted in a positive 'chemistry' between you both. When this occurs, you both connect and are able to discuss your issues more comfortably.
On one hand, the first therapist you saw seemed to understand your situation and was treating you rather gently.
This new therapist does appear to want to go deeper and work at more speed, hence putting you under more pressure. Albeit stern, she does seem to be helping you to try new things.
However. As you have wrote in your post. You do believe that your depression is based upon whatever troubles you experienced in your past. This is an area that needs to be explored thoroughly, yet carefully.
First, you mention the 'sudden wave of low mood'. You mention the 'homework' you did with the second therapist and how it brought about memories that could be affecting you without understanding why or how.
There are times when we don't understand what brings on our depressive states.
The homework appears to have 'pushed a button', resulting in the memories coming to light. This will - in turn - help you to work with the therapist at exploring the underlying issues.
You may benefit from therapy that will help you to understand why your depression is occurring and this will take some time.
In the meantime - as suggested by the therapist - trying different activities will certainly help you to move on with your life and deal with the negativity of depression.
Sitting in a busy cafe, walking a different route to work or the shop can help break the monotony of everyday routine - even though you may find it difficult. However, in time you may appreciate the change of scenery and also break away from your routine which - in turn - can build your confidence in new surroundings.
You will need to keep going to therapy as regular as possible. Where your depression is concerned, this is going to be the only way to help you explore the issues that are causing the depression.
There are self-help methods (such as books or even group meetings) that your counsellor could offer.
Both counsellors have been very helpful by encouraging you to be independent and break away from your routine. Routine can be very stable and comforting, yet restrictive.
There are however, many positives to routine and people do benefit from the structured, organised way of life it brings. Many people from all walks of life enjoy life more when following an organised lifestyle. For some. Lack of routine means chaos.
For others, lack of routine and living in 'chaos' is a way of life and they are happy with that.
Reading further along, you talk about your struggle with anxiety. This is another area that you will need to explore deeper in therapy. Again. It is locating the 'root cause' of why you are always feeling very anxious.
Anxiety - like depression - can be a situation that has grown over a long period throughout our lives. New situations can cause us to be anxious.
A counsellor/therapist will be able to advise you on self-help techniques to help you cope when you are experiencing your anxiety, as well as exploring deeper into why you are experiencing the anxiety.
Which counsellor/therapist do you want to see?....It's not a straight forward answer because everyone is different.
It's about finding someone you feel comfortable with. Especially when exploring such personal issues.
Due to the problem of getting to see your first therapist, it may be easier for you to continue working with your current therapist. The dilemma for you is the question of whether or not you should carry on seeing her.
It may be worth persevering with your current therapist because you now 'have a placement' with her. If you stop going to see her, you'll 'lose the place' and have to wait even longer for another appointment.
If you still feel that the therapist is unsuitable, then you will need to speak to your doctor about either getting an appointment with your original therapist or finding someone else.
The problem - if using the public health system - is getting the initial appointment and securing a 'place' because of the waiting list.
You could 'go private'. However. The cost of treatment will need to be borne in mind if you are living on a low budget.
It may be worth continuing to see the new therapist for at least another couple of sessions in order to to build a professional relationship. Although more 'stern', she may be more experienced and have a deeper understanding about your situation.
You may find it helpful to discuss the homework with her and try to work together on exploring why it was bringing memories to your attention.
Your depression could well be associated with these past memories and this is going to be a very important step for you regarding your journey towards overcoming this situation. Your new therapist may be able to help you in this area, which is pin-pointing the route cause of your depression and then finding a solution to deal with it.
Whoever you choose to continue therapy, it is important that you work together at understanding the underlying causes to your depression.
As for your work and college commitments, you may find yourself more productive by focusing on what you feel works best for you. Your business, cleaning and college commitments can be tailored to your own way of life by either working/studying part-time or being 'flexible' with your hours.
In time, you will find your own way to deal with this.