Hello Debs and Caro
I have been reading up on autism. In the USA, 1 in 42 boys are diagnosed with autism. In girls it's 1 in 169. You just wonder how many people are walking about with undiagnosed autism. Asperger's in women is different to Asberger's in men. Men tend to lack empathy while women have too much and become scared to offend people, as Caro pointed out.
I see a few female rather than male autistic traits in my own behaviour. Having too much empathy to my own detriⁿment. Able to concentrate on a task for a long time. Getting fixated on certain activities. Feeling different and "left out" in groups. On the other hand, I have always hated conforming and don't know how much of this is intentional. Groups bore me. One on one I have control of the conversation. I have never seen this as a problem. In jail I hardly speak to anyone, mainly because there is nothing to speak about.
It's an interesting subject though. Since autism is a spectrum and not yes or no question, I expect everyone displays something sometimes which is true of autism. Scientific and IT people are mostly men, well known autistic fields.
25% of autistic people are also bipolar, for example my cellmate. It makes him extremely irritated and irritating to others. He refuses to believe there is anything wrong with him.