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Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

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teamn
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby teamn » Tue Jul 03, 2018 1:15 am

sirhugo wrote:yeah Natalie was my old favourite. I remember she once was absurdly grateful when I offered her a fiver to buy smokes. really hope shes doing ok

are you still in touch with emma and Amaya?



Errrrrrm any chance of that fiver now ????? :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

sirhugo
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby sirhugo » Wed Jul 04, 2018 3:54 pm

sue you can have a fiver anytime you want :lol:

its lovely to hear from you again I have always wondered how you were getting on. great to see things have improved for you

an old refers to time elapsed from last posting you cheeky sod :lol:

Ill happy play game with you ill upload start in other thread

attmp don't be cheating and helping her :lol:

teamn
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby teamn » Thu Jul 05, 2018 1:03 am

Awwwww bless you :D .

How's things with yiu abs work, are they any less self centred at work, found anyone remotely interesting to talk too , or still struggling?

I look forward to game

sirhugo
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby sirhugo » Thu Jul 05, 2018 4:59 pm

work still sucks donkey dick . the insurance industry is evil and corrupt to the core. I actually reported them for some of there dodgy business practises. here's hoping they do something useful

There was one girl I had hopes for briefly. she told me she had social anxiety, so I thought she was something of a kindred spirit for a while. but after I opened up about some of my shit, just like anyone else I've told, I saw the fear in there eyes. The "get this freak away from me" look. so disappointing. why must you be all happy and fun and smiley to be accepted?

andthistoomustpass
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Thu Jul 05, 2018 10:15 pm

HI NATALIE! :) :) :)

I'll watch your progression through Sir Hugo's post apocalyptic wasteland with interest.

sirhugo
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby sirhugo » Fri Jul 06, 2018 4:00 pm

remember no help from you :D

sirhugo
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby sirhugo » Thu Jul 12, 2018 4:57 pm

hi attmp you still come on here? if so im looking for a ginea pig for a new game im working on :)

andthistoomustpass
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:13 am

Hi mate

Yeah, I'm up for that. Will be fun!

andthistoomustpass
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Fri Jul 13, 2018 1:51 am

Diary Entry

Not made an entry in a while, partly because the meds are helping, partly just don't feel like it.

Not much change from last entry, still not making any real steps towards my targets to improve my mental and physical health. Pressures of work have been such that I have little energy left.

Having a few days off and the reduction in stress is amazing. Went out and met some new people today for the first time in a long while, enjoyed it. How much of a struggle it was to get myself to go shows that I need to maintain the habit of meeting new people to avoid the ridiculous fears from taking control.

Exposure to my fears is really important to me as is challenging distorted thinking and maintaining good mental hygiene through CBT techniques. I am being more open in general, much more myself. and I am still recognising and processing most emotions as they arise, although there is still significant work to do here I am so much happier and more stable since my last bout of therapy which focused on accepting emotion.

I think that no matter how much work I do, the best I can hope for by using the tools I have is to minimise the impact of my anxiety, no amount of distancing myself, exposure, logical thinking or emotional processing will take me below my baseline for anxiety.

What will carry me forward is to address my negative self evaluations of my own worth and ability and my negative evaluations of others as being threats. These are deeply embedded core beliefs from early childhood and are part of my personality. Major psychological surgery required :lol:

I'm not sure how to address these beliefs although there are options which I am looking into. Learning compassion and respect for myself and others seems to be the best option but actually doing stuff, putting myself at emotional risk is also important. I am continuing to take baby steps in that direction, such as being much more open and assertive with friends and risking rejection, and I feel better for it but more is needed.

I'm really feeling my age too and I am wondering how many more years of missed opportunities, of missed chances to end my loneliness, I will experience. Will there be enough life left to live? I don't know but trying something is better than trying nothing so I will put such thoughts to one side and crack on.

sirhugo
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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby sirhugo » Fri Jul 13, 2018 5:23 pm

dude that's pretty deep :)

im glad to hear your making progress and are making progress. im feeling like I've hit a brick wall now. im fairly stable with moods these days but I genuinely feel like there's no point in trying to socialise anymore. its just too stressful and full of hassle and mind fucks. its just not worth it

so do you want to play on this thread or shall I start a new one? bear in mind this game is a work in progress and is far from finished


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