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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Thu Oct 15, 2020 11:31 am

westjensontexas wrote:I went back to work after a couple of weeks. Didn't feel up to it (still don't, had real trouble leaving the house yesterday morning) but I needed to protect my employment and besides, when you fall off of your bike, it is best to climb back on ASAP. Just have to be careful to take time out for me and not to push myself too far.

Hi. You seem to have posted on the wrong thread. No biggie, but this is my diary thread. You can post in many of the other threads on this site. If you are seeking dialogue, you may want to join more active mental health forums. is a nice place with active and welcoming members.

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Thu Oct 15, 2020 11:32 am

Next Steps

I have come so far in the last ten years of successful work on my mental health (and in four years of this diary!). This post is to set out my next steps. The hope is that I can take these steps in parallel with engaging more in life, building on the immense positive changes I have already achieved.

I want to continue engaging with, and noticing the good things in life.
I want to be less cautious, throw myself into life and more activities (feel the fear and do it anyway style), but this will largely have to wait until covid is over.

I want to continue improving my self-awareness. There is still 'something' in my mind that is preventing me from being at peace with myself. It would be good to identify it.

I want to continue my work on shrinking the inner and outer critics, learning how to manage emotional flashbacks and reducing my pessimism, including my fear of unknown others and of the world in general.

I want to continue to practice being in touch with, expressing (within reason!), and acting on my emotions in real time, while interacting with others. It will be post-covid before I can really pursue this.

I want to continue practicing acting in my own interests, including regular mindfulness practice.

I want to practice re-parenting myself, including self-compassion and self-soothing ( I can do these now! :)), but also self-discipline. Giving myself the love, care, boundaries, structure and direction I never received as a child.

Part of acting in my own interests is tackling self-sabotage. This is a biggie for me. I am reading a book on Internal Family Systems therapy. I can't say I buy into the theory so far. I do think some practical elements of this approach will be very useful in tackling the self-sabotage by those parts of me that are over-protective, and in continuing to balance my Fight, Flight, Freeze responses. I hope I can make use of IFS techniques without therapeutic support, but I am open to more therapy if necessary. I aim to be proficient in IFS techniques by the end of November.

Following my IFS work, I want to go back to learning ACT techniques. I think ACT will be very useful for me, previously I was not in the right place to benefit.

I will review progress every month. Managing my mental health and maintaining my many gains is a lifelong necessity, but I hope taking the above steps will lead me to a place where new work, and this diary, are no longer necessary.

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Sun Oct 18, 2020 10:10 am

Diary Entry 17/10/20

Reading a book by the founder of Internal Family Systems Therapy.

I keep laughing, this theory is the kind of self-contradicting nonsense that gives psychotherapy a bad name.

Still hoping there my be some useful practical techniques, but I'm up to page 57 and he has already invoked The Wisdom of The Ancients, The One Universal Consciousness, Quantum reality and Epigenetics. These are the four horsemen of quackery.

Dairy Entry 2 17/10/20

Not sure I can bring myself to do more than scan the remainder of this book, in case there are any useful practical techniques to be gleaned. I have finished part one. The last straw was where the author claimed to have cured patients of cancer using IFS. This is offensive charlatanism!

Underneath the unnecessary semi-mystical woo-woo, the techniques described are not too different to those generally used in modern analytical therapy. Although the patient transcripts he gives as examples of treating physical ailments show results that are so incredibly fast, he has either found the philosopher's stone of psychotherapy, he is deluded, or he is a liar. I reckon it is option number three.

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Re: Emotional resilience and the impact of its lack

Postby andthistoomustpass » Thu Dec 24, 2020 12:32 pm

24 Dec 2020

Been a while since I've made a diary entry.
I've been consolidating the gains from all of my recent work. Not much I can do about the social side in these locked down times and I feel the lack of other people keenly, but overall things have been pretty good.

Emotional flashbacks have me avoiding a key work task. This time I have been able to create a picture of the fear that has led to the avoidance. I'm utilising ACT defusion techniques to help ground myself and not take the flashback seriously. Seems to be helping :) . Really pleased about that, aside from a lack of sleep, this is the last major professional impact of my mental health.

Not been looking after my physical health, over eating and choosing not to exercise again. Work just seems to take all my time, attention, and energy. I want to step back and remember that work is only one subset of the category called 'Looking out for me'.

Christmas Eve and I want to cry for unknown reasons. I want to cry, I want to scream, I want to shout, I want to run about. At least I have a ready made excuse not to visit my mother this year. I'm feeling deeply lonely (as I have done my entire life), very horny (pretty much same :) ), and I am almost cacophaniously aware of my ageing.

As a list of problems, that is nice and short. This will be a much better Christmas than any previous year. All my MH work really has paid dividends.

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