I wish to share with you something I call calming the inner child. I hope many will benefit from. This is something that I had much thought about in finding ways of helping past emotional blockages to be released, coped with more, to be understood and most importantly regaining self control that may have been taken away in the past. The inner child ideally would be visualized as you at a certain age, but any child image would be fine.
I am not aware of any other kind of experience like this, I expect there could be something similar out in the world somewhere? if there is would be purely coincidental.
In my view, there is a common perception that other than generic roots, most mental health suffering may have formed within childhood from the experience of abuse. Examples of abuse could be emotional, physical, verbal and sexual. When arriving at the age of an adult may find recalling abuse can be difficult to remember and at what age the abuse had started. Although the memories of abuse maybe hidden within the child of the past, the energy of the abuse may still tend to intrude into everyday lives of today and possibly for years to come. Difficulties can arise by not knowing why suffering mentally has entered into a person’s life.
Unwanted bad thoughts may often be considered as a product of the memories of abuse. These thoughts may often rise to a person’s daily awareness; Difficulties may be experienced when having these bad thoughts and the feelings they give without knowing where they came from.
I believe that an abuse experienced at an age tends to be locked within that age. For example if a child had experienced emotional abuse at the age of 6, all the thoughts, feelings and energy of the abuse experience becomes locked and blocked within this age as the mind of a 6 yr old tries to protect itself from this experience at the time. Hence the possible affect with personality/multiple personality disorders as the mind splits to personalities with roles and purposes..
This child becomes stuck in time, stuck at the time of the abuse because the mind couldn’t understand what was happening, and therefore naturally protected the child by closing off all awareness of the abuse.
To help release this child would be to naturally explore the minds understanding of the time and as an adult learns to understand what the mind choose to do at the time, to explore fully and to think differently about the abuse, in turn leads to a possible freeing of that child part of the mind stuck within an adults mind that could be affecting life today.
As with anything if life, practice helps to make perfect, I hope to offer a profound way of claiming back self control, gaining control over the emotions and bad thoughts which can be practiced. Feedback from other people in the past said the experience had been quite emotional. This was because of the self compassion and nurturing they had for the child.
Feel free to practice at your own convenience and 'only if you feel comfortable to do so' it does take an amount of strength, courage and belief in the control you have, preparation in a way of being undisturbed and allowing yourself to feel calm and relaxed as well as understanding you are in control at all times is important.
Before I explain the experience, there is a lot of truth to this experience that connects to you as a person and may find the experience deeply emotional. Because you may come to find the child does represent yourself calling back to you as an adult for help.
At anytime you feel bad thoughts and feelings, practice to refocus your attention away from the symbolic memories of the thoughts and feelings, instead when the bad thoughts and feelings arise see them as a child inside you experiencing these bad thoughts and feelings. For example close your eyes and picture deep within ‘a child’ standing in a dark place where the stomach ends. This child can be you or doesn’t have to be you, as long in some way has some representation of what you’re going through mentally.
See the child at a young age, doesn’t matter how young but no younger than 3yrs old, purposely for the experience to work.
See this child in detail, the kind of clothes worn, new or old, neglected or not, and if you wish a cap, hat or not, long hair, etc. This child stands alone, dark all surrounding, with a small amount of daylight shining upon them.
Now the important bit, from a close distance you are looking down at this child, you become aware that at this time it is not you that is experiencing the bad thoughts, feelings and emotions, but that it is this child that is experiencing all the bad thoughts, feelings and emotions that you would normally experience.
You realise that the child is deeply upset, crying, facial expressions showing fear, confusion, and sadness or all the emotions that you would normally experience this child now shows to you it is experiencing the same thoughts. The child also cries out, you hear these cries as you would if they were your own.
See the child now lift up their arms to you, holding out their hands, crying out as they suffer the bad thoughts, feelings and emotions. The child calls out for help, to be comforted, to be held, asking for love and care, to want someone to tell them “It’s ok”.
Your part here is to visualize that you are lowering your hand inside to the child, a hand of strength, of kindness, of nurturing and of a sense of safety, security and love. Your hand gently touches the child’s hand that shakes with fear; your hand gently strokes the child’s hand, speak inside telling the child “Don’t worry I am here, it’s all going to be ok, you’re safe now” the child’s hand calms, yet you notice the crying and pain still shows in the child’s face.
Move your hand further down to stroke the child’s head, to the cheek and then down to hug the child close to you, tightly holding, you love the fear away by saying on the lines as “It’s ok, I am here now, your safe, you cannot be hurt anymore, no one can hurt you now, don’t be afraid, I won’t hurt you, you can trust me, (On regular occasions use a silent hush). Feel your compassion, your kindness and goodness flow through you down to the child.
Carry on nurturing and comforting the child until you will sense a point where the child will start to calm, watch as the face will begin to relax, the tears will start to end, the child’s arms will start to lower (Still continue with the nurturing statements) then see the child moving lower, away from you, fading slowly away, noticing at the same time that the child’s face is now showing signs of feeling more free, more relaxed, smiling now back at you and most importantly has now ‘formed a new bond of trust with you’. This child knows now if whenever these bad thoughts, feelings and emotions come again to upset, that the child knows it can come to you for nurturing again as you have just done so.
The child now is almost out of sight, eventually disappearing away to sleep peacefully. In turn you to feel this sense of peace but may also feel a difference in yourself not experienced before. A sense of regained control, strength, courage, compassion, contentment and kindness with a self nurturing returned back to you.
Each time this is practiced makes all these lifting changes stronger and more easily accepted as whom you truly are, you’re looking after the child within, who comes to trust your words. The time it takes is individual, but I hope that in time the child will no longer want to come up for reassurance because it will know you are always there. The little one can now sleep tight, as the bad thoughts no longer can upset the child.
Hope you got something from this.
Feel free to share your feedback from trying this experience. As with anything, setting the right conditions and preparation can make all the difference. Be patient, don’t rush the process, let the experience guide you and find a sense of self control that was once lost start to return.
Of course I used abuse as an example in this case, but any kind of experience that had resulted in reoccurring bad thoughts would benefit.
Hope I have not lost anyone!, feel free to try and I hope sincerely that you gain the benefits from practicing this experience that you truly deserve.
As always take care.
Last edited by AndreR
on Wed Apr 23, 2014 10:12 pm, edited 3 times in total.