Okay, what I'm going to say is only my opinion, so some others may disagree with my perspective:
I do think one of the difficulties with psychiatrists is that mental health services don't properly communicate what their purpose and function is, and so we often have unrealistic expectations of what we will get from them. Most of our understanding of psychiatrists comes from what we see on TV - people who spend hours with their patients, listening and discussing their problems through psychoanalysis. But this form of psychiatry exists only at the premium, most expensive end of the mental health profession and very rarely in the NHS.
Really, all they're there to do in the NHS is to prescribe medication and diagnose. That's literally it. They're not employed to provide emotional support and it's not really what they do. So it can be a bit shocking when you go to see them and they barely look at you. They're psychiatrists! They're meant to be caring, empathetic people who show a real interest in us and our emotions!
That's what the CPNs and therapists are there for. The psychiatrist just finds out if our medication is working or if we need a different diagnosis - then they send us on to the people who are trained to help us with our specific problem.
Most of us learn this the hard way, when we have an extremely disappointing first appointment with a psychiatrist and realise that they're not the people who are really going to help make us better. That job belongs to other people in the services.
So you may need to adjust your expectations a little in terms of what you are going to get from your psychiatrist. As frustrating as it is, they're not really required to show an interest in us on a day to day basis. Maybe they should, maybe they would do their jobs better if they did, but many psychiatrist went into their profession for reasons other than a profound care and compassion for the mentally ill. They also aren't hired for their intuitive understanding of how people think and behave. They're trained to know the human brain through research and teaching, based on statistical evidence, not instinct, and that's why they sometimes seem to come out with incredibly tactless comments. It's not that they don't give a crap at all. They're not bad people. Some of them care very much indeed, even when they don't seem to show it. But they don't necessarily feel obliged to emotionally engage with all their patients.
Basically, I wouldn't invest too much emotionally in what you will get from them. Just treat them like you might a person who works at the bank. Plan with your cpn what you need to say to them before your appointment, work out what you think they need to know, write it down if you have to. Just make sure they have the information they need to do their jobs when you get in there.
If they're emotionally distant, then you need to distance yourself emotionally from them too, or you're going to completely wear yourself out with worry over how they behave towards you, and you need to focus on your relationships with people who are significant in your life, not on a psychiatrist who you will only see every few weeks at the most xxx
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