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Re: cursed

Postby umbrella4therain » Fri Jun 01, 2012 12:53 am

Does a person have to be cursed to have lots of things go wrong for them in their life? It sounds like your CPN was acknowledging you have had lots of things happen that are understandably stressful rather than that you are cursed?

I sometimes have similar thoughts when Im finding life events tough. I sometimes think "God hates me" but then I realised that its me that hates God when things are going wrong. Not necessarily the other way around (although thats very hard to believe at times.)

Im wondering if the feeling that you have been cursed could be part of your OCD and stemming from your own self hatred. A feeling of "My life is bad and im bad so someone must be punishing me for being bad by making my life bad" with part of you feeling angry that your life is so hard and part of you feeling that you deserve to be punished. I dont know if any of that makes any sense? Sorry everything is coming out muddled up.
I struggle with thoughts about the nature of the world, God, angels, evil spirits etc. There is no way I could either prove or disprove but personally I doubt you are cursed and think these thoughts could possibly be OCD related and down to you feeling everything is your fault but also upset that things are "going wrong". xxx

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Re: cursed

Postby judithj » Fri Jun 01, 2012 8:16 am

you're not cursed, sweetheart, but we all have times in our lives when we've just started to achieve some stability when wham! the next thing comes along. when something difficult happens you tend to take it personally, rather than seeing that this is part of life, and i think this is what your CPN means. i think this could well be part of your OCD - your Mum could say the same thing, couldn't she, but she's able to see that both bad and good things happen to everyone, whereas you tend to concentrate on the bad things. sometimes the good things are little, like seeing Maddie every day, but they are there, hugs, Judith xxx

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Re: cursed

Postby tracie » Fri Jun 01, 2012 8:42 am

i went through a stage of thinking this but your not cursed hun

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Re: cursed

Postby wishbone » Fri Jun 01, 2012 11:02 am

It might feel being cursed, but, when we are within experiences that take a longer time to recover from, for whatever reason, other things that come along on top, or after, makes it ongoing, which may only feel like this because of being slower to recover from the first. Does that makes sense? Can't really find the wording to explain. I feel like this sometimes too.

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Re: cursed

Postby muchlove » Fri Jun 01, 2012 1:05 pm

I would agree with the others..... Sounds like your cpn is acknowledging your having a hard time which is impacting on the way you feel. She is not saying you are cursed. For me, it helps when people can acknowledge that I'm having a hard time. Many professionals are so focused on the 'getting better' that they seem to gloss over the fact that life is bloody hard. I find just a little recognition really helpful. The best thing anyone ever said to me was 'it must be really hard for you' this wasnt dwelling on the fact I'm struggling, but accepting that's how I am feeling at the moment and giving it recognition. This may not be the case for you but what im trying to say is, what's going on for you must be really tough, but it doesnt mean your cursed
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Re: cursed

Postby deadchick07 » Fri Jun 01, 2012 10:42 pm

there was a man on telly tonight. he lost his sight, and some close friends in an explosion in afgahnistan. he lost his dream job in the army. he never considered being anything else.

some people would consider him cursed.

three weeks ago he bacame a father, and tonight he ran with the olympic torch, taking it on the ferry across the mersey.

How does he cope? he was asked. "i'm just a scouser" he replied.

He basically has the resilliance to take shit as it happens. Other people, like you, are fragile and when shit happens, find it really hard to cope. You are not cursed.

much of your pain comes from the fear of the worst happening rather than the actual event. You need help to replace the fear of the worst happening with the understanding of what the most likely thing is to happen. You can practice this in small steps, for example, worrying about the post the postman brings, will it be a letter removing your benefits, a huge water rates bill 15 times its usual amount, a letter from someone you didnt want. These are unlikely, benefits are rarely stopped without a reason, water rates are similar with maybe a small increase each year, the usual post might be a bank statement, appointment letters or fliers offering virgin tv at a special rate.


you are not cursed at all, just needing help to develop resilience.
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Re: cursed

Postby umbrella4therain » Sat Jun 02, 2012 1:30 am

Hugs RJ. xxxx

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Re: cursed

Postby wishbone » Sat Jun 02, 2012 8:52 am

I am really please to hear they are plannign to give you therapy. This is great. This means they think you are stable enough to have therapy. Perhaps, without realising it, you are calming down and showing signs of being able to manage your daily emotions better, because, they would not consider therapy, if they thought you were not ready.

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Re: cursed

Postby deadchick07 » Sat Jun 02, 2012 12:01 pm

in wasnt implying you dont have things as bad as others, you have had a horrendous childhood and you are only free of them very recently. Its no wonder you respond like you do to events, but because of all the bad things you go into disaster mode before you know what is really happening, catastrophising outcomes before they occur. You also jump to conclusions as you assumed I was saying you havent got things as bad as others, what I meant was some people cope better than others, those who dont cope may assume they are cursed.

Its good they are considering therapy, although it may take a long time for you to deal with issues because of the length of time you suffered. Im sure you will do well at it as you have been keen to move on.

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