Hello Squirley (I love that name!). Welcome to the forum!
You have good reason to be wary of psychiatrists. I've also suffered from their 'stab-in-the-dark' policies (very aptly named!), and was misdiagnosed several times over a period of 15 years, until I realised that I was actually on the autism spectrum. You could be too. It's a national scandal, and it mainly affects females because most of us with Asperger's syndrome present very differently to those with the classic 'male-type' Asperger's. These misdiagnoses are made by generic psychiatrists with no training
in diagnosing HF autism.
The most common misdiagnoses are BPD/EUPD, avoidant and/or schizotypal PD, bipolar and schizophrenia. We're often only partly diagnosed as having anxiety, depression, OCD or anorexia. (We all have chronic anxiety). Misdiagnoses are dangerous for they can lead to decades of incorrect treatments. Partial diagnoses miss the underlying cause. BPD is the classic catch-all label given to women when the 'experts' are fumbling in the dark, and too professionally arrogant to admit it. 3 out of every 4 BPD diagnoses are females, and a large proportion of these will actually have HF autism/Asperger's, because BPD traits are very similar to those found in female-type AS, although the causes are very different. Generic psychiatrists & psychologists are not
experts when it comes to the specialist area of autism. They misinterpret the signs they see, and miss other signs completely (such as your very high empathy) - signs which are so obvious to the true experts.
In my ignorance, although I'd read about Asperger's, I ruled it out for many years. It was only when I discovered the female presentation that I found that I scored very highly on an online test, and became 100% convinced that they'd got it wrong yet again. I sought an autism diagnosis and eventually got one - the best thing that's ever happened to me, for now I understand myself and others understand me better too.
'they' changed my diagnosis which I find incredible as their was literally no medical intervention whilst in 'prison' as they had misplaced my notes.
Sadly, this doesn't surprise me at all. These kind of things happen only too often in this area. Only a couple of months ago exactly the same happened to a friend of mine, except that the notes hadn't been passed on. Went in bipolar and came out with an undefined personality disorder, and yet was prescribed the same medication as before. Psychiatry is not an exact science, and can be highly subjective, especially with patients who don't quite fit into their artificial little boxes.
I'm not saying you're on the spectrum, but your post reads as a typical textbook case of undiagnosed AS. If you have any questions please ask.
You're right about Zopiclone too. I was once prescribed it - but only allowed it for a week.