New Year

[ModeratingTeam]

Hello and wishing you all the best for the New Year.

The new year could be time for you to think about how you make the most of the Forum. The Support Forum aims to provide mutual support and sometimes just knowing that your story has been read might be enough. However, there might be times when you’d like to have more replies. If you’re reading someone else’s post it’s worth remembering that any reply, however brief, can be encouraging. Even if you’re feeling ill yourself your contribution is still worthwhile.

We hope you have been finding a benefit from sharing your experiences here on the Support Forum. Either good or bad times and maybe especially when you’re struggling. This time of the year can be challenging for many and so it can be especially important to share what is happening for you.

Best wishes

Moderating Team

[mezzaninedoor]

I'm concerned that we rarely see any support from a Sane moderating team on these forums.
There used to be a lot more activity from the old Black Dog Tribe moderators.
Sometimes there are posters who are discussing areas that are hard for those of us on here to address from our experiences.
I struggle for example with Self Harm, I dont know what advice to give.

[deb1960]

Mezz,

Regarding self harm. Many years ago my daughter self harmed. As a mum I found it immensely distressing. With the help of my support worker I learnt a little.,perhaps not enough to use on this forum, but at the time, given this was 2001 and self harm was not understood at all, it helped me a lot.

If the very little I'm telling you is nothing new, I'm sorry.

Firstly A always did it where it couldn't be seen. SH aren't looking for attention.
It is used to divert the pain in their mind.
It is a coping mechanism and whilst it is destructive it is perhaps the best way the person
Can cope at this time.

My daughter SH,, (not hospital needs) for a number of years. My support worker told me it was her way of Coping at the moment. That was very good advice. She stopped for about a year and then came to see me in a distressed state. She needed stitches but cried at the idea of hospital.

Because of what I'd learnt I was able to reassure her that this was how she was Coping at the moment but she wouldn't alway do this. I told it was better to go to the hospital as that way it would heal better.

I was very calm and ok about it and I believe that approach made a huge difference. She was living with her dad at the time. Prior to this he'd minimumised it no different to getting drunk on a Saturday night. When I took her back and she told him he was different. Saying, Right, what's all this about self harming. Bless her. She said, quite calmly, it's just my way of Coping at the moment. Sometimes it amazes me that my ex husband is a social worker specialising in child protection.



Okay.. My main reason is to give advice concerning this subject. In order to do that I had to mention my daughter and bringing my ex into it was purely to put him down.

Deb x

[helensteiner091]

I am worried that we infrequently see any support from a Sane moderating group on these forums.
There used to be a lot further activity from the Community mediators.

[mihaela]

Interesting post. Too interesting for me to even bother clicking the link.

Edited - it was spam, and it's now been deleted.

[kat32]

Celebrate the new year with better job prospects and leave the bullying behind, screw it up Ande close the door. Open .a new door to interesting and happy Christmas and New year.
Read other messages and be helpful.

[andthistoomustpass]

Hi Village

I'm sorry for your troubles but it sounds like you've made a good decision to move on. I know it doesn't feel like it right now but I'm sure eventually you will find someone who cares just as much for you as you do for them.

Take care.

[sunny32]

Happy New year and best wishes to everyone!

[me-yu-all]

An oldie but also a newbie, I'm not sure how to create a new post so clicked on the reply button. So hello from me, Happy Newish Year to you. I'm on here looking for advice re anxiety & depression, and also to give any advice that I feel able to.

[christabel]

Hello and welcome. Have a look round on the forum and join in or start a new post.