I realised this year that my family, in particular my faithervwill only ever see things from his perspective. I realised thyme continuously hoping for him to notice what i need abdctge family to notice what i Need only sesame more frustraed, allows them a form of control over me making me feel needy, hopeless and dependent on their affection.
Once I really thought to myself I'm a grin woman and I should not depend on anyone to try to understand me, or love me, (sounds Corny , but I nee to love myself). I thought the family still treating me like I'm a child and I am 41!! Am I gonna spend another 40 years with them testing me like a child, and worse still me responding to the. Like a child.. I mean needy, you know when a child craves love abd affection.. mynanswer was no. So over past few months since I've had my own space I've cleared my head and heart and left them to Iit. I don't try to please them, I don't go to functions if I know they are going to act up which will then make me respond negatively.
I just don't need the Sh'"t anymore in my life. It gets lonely not gonna lie, but at lest I'm not being emotionally abused as that's definitely what was happening.
Be strong there light at end of the tunnel and a beautiful life ahead when you realise you don't need them to treat you like that, nothing yiu will do will make them change, so yiu have to keep some distance and also yup go doctors , councellimg, get support all round.
All the best