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aericuros
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby aericuros » Tue Feb 18, 2020 7:07 pm

Hello! I told my boyfriend straight away that he is not allowed to watch porn. Almost every movie/tv show that we have watched had a sexual scene in it - which we always skipped. It got so much worse, skipping is not enough for me now. I use IMDb - parenting guide to check if in the movie/tv show will be any sexuality. My boyfriend is supportive, before choosing a movie he asks if it's safe to watch. If it's not - we simply don't watch it.

Nowdays, almost every movie has sexual scenes. Sadly, it's Hollywood and people with no values. Get yourself a man who will respect you enough to stop desiring more than just you.

If your man watches porn - to me it's cheating. A simple solution to it is to record some sexual videos with your partner, so when you are not around he won't be interested in more than just the videos of you two.

If he doesn't respect what you value and how you want the relationship to look like then he doesn't respect you. If he doesn't respect you - he doesn't deserve you.

heyyyou
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby heyyyou » Tue Feb 18, 2020 11:21 pm

Hi again guys,

I wrote a couple of weeks ago and was nervous that no one was going to reply. I completely agree with the post above, that was me for a couple of months with my ex and then he got tired of me approving movies. I’d love to keep chatting with all of y’all! I think a WhatsApp group would be amazing! What do y’all think?

heyyyou
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby heyyyou » Tue Feb 18, 2020 11:27 pm

erza wrote:Hey guys. I’ve been experiencing the same thing with my boyfriend and I hate it.

Ok so, it all started when he told me he watched game of thrones, I got curious so I watched a couple of episodes and I noticed they had a lot of nudity in it with women showing off their boobs and ass and it just made me really uncomfortable imagining my boyfriend looking at other women, because to me, it’s not right. It doesn’t feel right, it feels like crap to be honest. And he’s already watched all of the seasons.

And so I talked to him about it and he told me whenever any sexual activity happened in the series he just found it awkward and didn’t bother with it and that he understands and won’t watch it ever again (the new season that’s coming out he won’t watch either.) he promised (not to mention this conversation happened while we were outside, we were just about to go into a huge shopping center to buy my engagement ring.) But I still can’t help to worry about it. For example when we’re outside in public I’m so afraid he’s going to look at other women. There have been a couple of times where he’s looked at the same direction that other women were at and so when I turn around it looks like he’s looking at other women and then he looks back at me immediately as if nothing happened. And then when I talked to him about it he told me he doesn’t even remember looking at other women and that he promises he didn’t do it. That he only have eyes for me and only me, and that he wants to spend his life with me and not some random woman. He also said that he’s never really been into women his whole life. He’s never watched porn EVER. And when he was younger his mates used to fool around with it, like put pornhub on in the classroom and stuff but when that happened it was too awkward to watch so he just looked away.

And he does seem like that kind of type too. I’ve known him my whole life so I know how he is as a person. I do feel like he’s telling the truth but I just can’t help but to still worry about it.

Another reason for why I’m worried is because I’m 1 month pregnant and we’re planning our whole future ahead and I’ve gained some weight (not a lot). Maybe that why I feel insecure when other women are around? I do have moments when we’re outwise where I feel 100% confident, sexy, beautiful and just fierce, but as soon as I see my boyfriend look at another woman’s direction, all of my confident and me feeling sexy, everything just disappears and I’m back to being me again. I just want to go back to being myself again (plus he told me he wasn’t even looking at the women/woman). I want to feel beautiful in my boyfriends eyes. And I do. He tells me I’m beautiful everyday. He helps me clean the house when I’m too exhausted to. He cooks food etc, and he really respects my wishes, but I’m SOO worried. I don’t know what to do anymore and I’m tired of all these therapists telling me that’s how guys are etc. Like why does it always have to be women only? Why can’t there be a whole game of thrones with naked men instead, maybe that would teach all the guys a lesson about how we women feel when our partners watch porn or series or movies with nudity in them.

Any advice guys? I just don’t know what to do, and I’ve had several conversations that started with me thinking he was checking out other women when he wasn’t (or that’s what he told me) but then again why would he do all the other stuff for me if he didn’t love me? Maybe what he says is true? Maybe he really isn’t into other women or watchea porn or anything. But then again, that just feels like a dream rather than reality. :cry:



I relate to this so hard. I want to bust in tears and just hug you because I honestly went through the same thing. I just don’t know how to help either or what to do!

sophie94
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby sophie94 » Thu Feb 20, 2020 12:55 pm

aericuros wrote:Hello! I told my boyfriend straight away that he is not allowed to watch porn. Almost every movie/tv show that we have watched had a sexual scene in it - which we always skipped. It got so much worse, skipping is not enough for me now. I use IMDb - parenting guide to check if in the movie/tv show will be any sexuality. My boyfriend is supportive, before choosing a movie he asks if it's safe to watch. If it's not - we simply don't watch it.

Nowdays, almost every movie has sexual scenes. Sadly, it's Hollywood and people with no values. Get yourself a man who will respect you enough to stop desiring more than just you.

If your man watches porn - to me it's cheating. A simple solution to it is to record some sexual videos with your partner, so when you are not around he won't be interested in more than just the videos of you two.

If he doesn't respect what you value and how you want the relationship to look like then he doesn't respect you. If he doesn't respect you - he doesn't deserve you.



I do this two with my boyfriend however i still get paranoid thinking im not good enough for it and that im to boring as i have no confidence in the bedroom what so ever , he promises me he doesnt watch porn because he sees my point. Imagine how it nakes someone feels knowing that you watch another person naked to gey off on even though you have a partnet - not good enough right?and completeley disrespectful

ericayes
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby ericayes » Mon Feb 24, 2020 11:36 pm

I'm just getting worse and worse. I'm awaiting cbt for my body dysmorphia but this issue is ruining me. My other half has lost interest in sex over the past 6 months. Says its depression and now I've convinced myself he must be watching porn or looking at porn threads on reddit I hate this feeling I literally feel disgusting, but also betrayed, even though maybe he isn't looking at other women. My exes all went off me and became avid porn watchers so it's what I'm used to. I just feel like films and TV shows don't need porny material in or half naked women. I feel women have been hyper sexualised. . I don't feel safe anywhere anymore. I hate this. If someone makes a group please inbox me, I could really do with the support,and not feeling alone in these feelings.

chloe23
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby chloe23 » Sat Feb 29, 2020 12:38 am

So glad I am not the only one,I have this problem and it's literally ruining my life and I'm so scared I'm going to lose my boyfriend because of it I've even considered taking my own life multiple times because I just feel like there is no way out and that it is never going to end. I want nothing more than to think "normal" and to just be happy without having to worry every second of the day Has anyone ever found anything that helps ? Like is there any cure is there an underlying issue I suffer anxiety could that be causing it I just wish there was something I could do

blondie69
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby blondie69 » Mon Mar 02, 2020 9:09 am

Hello guys!
Sorry for my English, I'm writing you from Hungary. I've just found this forum and literally tears came to my eyes realising I'm not the only one feeling this way. I am 25, living with my bf for a year now. I've been struggling reaching him not to watch porn, not to recieve stupid big boobed naked women from friends, not to follow facebook groups where there are daily post of naked women. He's never understood how I feel. My life is basically about stressing about what he's watching on the phone or on his laptop, I even hate leaving the room when we're home, and I have stomach ache and anxiety when he's home alone. A few weeks ago I told him I was breaking up because I can no more tolarate him making me feel this way, he could change his attitude about what he's clicking on the laptop and on the phone these are his DECISIONS but I cannot change my feelings and how I feel no matter how hard I try I wish I could! He asked me not to leave and promised me not to watch porn and search naked women ever again and also if he gets a photo of a naked woman he tells me about it so I don't worry all the time. I don't know I wish I could believe it but I as many of you said before he can't even imagine how it is feel like feeling so much pain every day. He doesn't need to watch naked men all the time when turning on the tv or browsing the net or opening Facebook. I'm sick of it :( I wish he would understand my feelings and stopped doing these things without fighting again and again over it. I am so tired of it I just want to feeI I am the most beautiful woman for him but when there's a woman on the screen it's like he must be looking at it like he's never seen boobs before. I hate he acts so immature and disrespectful towards me I think I look good but when he does these things I lose all my confidence all of a sudden I want to lose a lot of weight and go under plastic surgery about my boobs I know I'm not fat but I am just natural and don't have the perfect curves like women on tv and social media. I have started working out so maybe I could get body closer to them. I know we can't remove all these stuff from our lives because it's the world today but I wish he would reassure me I'm the only one for him and doesn't care about other women when he glances at them, he does not reassure me. And I am also sick of myself feeling anxious all day whether he keeps his promise or just tries to hide them from me (like before...). I'm sick of myself checking secretely parents guide about the movies on tv about nudity I just want to live without this shit :(
Sorry for wrong spellings and for the lenght. Hope you're still active and we can get in touch because I think nobody else could understand what I'm going through.
Can I join your WhatsApp group maybe?
Wish you the best!

soso
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby soso » Mon Mar 02, 2020 10:25 pm

for anyone who wants to join our whatsapp group, you have to contact me by email. I left it on the previous pages

erza
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby erza » Fri Mar 06, 2020 7:55 am

heyyyou wrote:
erza wrote:Hey guys. I’ve been experiencing the same thing with my boyfriend and I hate it.

Ok so, it all started when he told me he watched game of thrones, I got curious so I watched a couple of episodes and I noticed they had a lot of nudity in it with women showing off their boobs and ass and it just made me really uncomfortable imagining my boyfriend looking at other women, because to me, it’s not right. It doesn’t feel right, it feels like crap to be honest. And he’s already watched all of the seasons.

And so I talked to him about it and he told me whenever any sexual activity happened in the series he just found it awkward and didn’t bother with it and that he understands and won’t watch it ever again (the new season that’s coming out he won’t watch either.) he promised (not to mention this conversation happened while we were outside, we were just about to go into a huge shopping center to buy my engagement ring.) But I still can’t help to worry about it. For example when we’re outside in public I’m so afraid he’s going to look at other women. There have been a couple of times where he’s looked at the same direction that other women were at and so when I turn around it looks like he’s looking at other women and then he looks back at me immediately as if nothing happened. And then when I talked to him about it he told me he doesn’t even remember looking at other women and that he promises he didn’t do it. That he only have eyes for me and only me, and that he wants to spend his life with me and not some random woman. He also said that he’s never really been into women his whole life. He’s never watched porn EVER. And when he was younger his mates used to fool around with it, like put pornhub on in the classroom and stuff but when that happened it was too awkward to watch so he just looked away.

And he does seem like that kind of type too. I’ve known him my whole life so I know how he is as a person. I do feel like he’s telling the truth but I just can’t help but to still worry about it.

Another reason for why I’m worried is because I’m 1 month pregnant and we’re planning our whole future ahead and I’ve gained some weight (not a lot). Maybe that why I feel insecure when other women are around? I do have moments when we’re outwise where I feel 100% confident, sexy, beautiful and just fierce, but as soon as I see my boyfriend look at another woman’s direction, all of my confident and me feeling sexy, everything just disappears and I’m back to being me again. I just want to go back to being myself again (plus he told me he wasn’t even looking at the women/woman). I want to feel beautiful in my boyfriends eyes. And I do. He tells me I’m beautiful everyday. He helps me clean the house when I’m too exhausted to. He cooks food etc, and he really respects my wishes, but I’m SOO worried. I don’t know what to do anymore and I’m tired of all these therapists telling me that’s how guys are etc. Like why does it always have to be women only? Why can’t there be a whole game of thrones with naked men instead, maybe that would teach all the guys a lesson about how we women feel when our partners watch porn or series or movies with nudity in them.

Any advice guys? I just don’t know what to do, and I’ve had several conversations that started with me thinking he was checking out other women when he wasn’t (or that’s what he told me) but then again why would he do all the other stuff for me if he didn’t love me? Maybe what he says is true? Maybe he really isn’t into other women or watchea porn or anything. But then again, that just feels like a dream rather than reality. :cry:



I relate to this so hard. I want to bust in tears and just hug you because I honestly went through the same thing. I just don’t know how to help either or what to do!


Omg, I just want to hug you too! I’m so sorry you went through this. It’s really not okay, you deserve so much more, we all do. We have to stay strong! Would you like to add me on Facebook? I can create WhatsApp if it’s be easier

drummergirl
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Re: Phobia of boyfriend watching shows with sex and nudity in

Postby drummergirl » Mon Mar 09, 2020 4:25 am

I have the same issue with my fiance. Currently right now he is watching some movie with sex and nudity in it. I want to approve of things, but it is hard because sometimes he thinks I act like his mother or I am nagging at him because of it. I dont want to be controlling. I tell him that I love him and he doesnt believe me because he thinks I am lying.


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