Hey guys. I’ve been experiencing the same thing with my boyfriend and I hate it.
Ok so, it all started when he told me he watched game of thrones, I got curious so I watched a couple of episodes and I noticed they had a lot of nudity in it with women showing off their boobs and ass and it just made me really uncomfortable imagining my boyfriend looking at other women, because to me, it’s not right. It doesn’t feel right, it feels like crap to be honest. And he’s already watched all of the seasons.
And so I talked to him about it and he told me whenever any sexual activity happened in the series he just found it awkward and didn’t bother with it and that he understands and won’t watch it ever again (the new season that’s coming out he won’t watch either.) he promised (not to mention this conversation happened while we were outside, we were just about to go into a huge shopping center to buy my engagement ring.) But I still can’t help to worry about it. For example when we’re outside in public I’m so afraid he’s going to look at other women. There have been a couple of times where he’s looked at the same direction that other women were at and so when I turn around it looks like he’s looking at other women and then he looks back at me immediately as if nothing happened. And then when I talked to him about it he told me he doesn’t even remember looking at other women and that he promises he didn’t do it. That he only have eyes for me and only me, and that he wants to spend his life with me and not some random woman. He also said that he’s never really been into women his whole life. He’s never watched porn EVER. And when he was younger his mates used to fool around with it, like put pornhub on in the classroom and stuff but when that happened it was too awkward to watch so he just looked away.
And he does seem like that kind of type too. I’ve known him my whole life so I know how he is as a person. I do feel like he’s telling the truth but I just can’t help but to still worry about it.
Another reason for why I’m worried is because I’m 1 month pregnant and we’re planning our whole future ahead and I’ve gained some weight (not a lot). Maybe that why I feel insecure when other women are around? I do have moments when we’re outwise where I feel 100% confident, sexy, beautiful and just fierce, but as soon as I see my boyfriend look at another woman’s direction, all of my confident and me feeling sexy, everything just disappears and I’m back to being me again. I just want to go back to being myself again (plus he told me he wasn’t even looking at the women/woman). I want to feel beautiful in my boyfriends eyes. And I do. He tells me I’m beautiful everyday. He helps me clean the house when I’m too exhausted to. He cooks food etc, and he really respects my wishes, but I’m SOO worried. I don’t know what to do anymore and I’m tired of all these therapists telling me that’s how guys are etc. Like why does it always have to be women only? Why can’t there be a whole game of thrones with naked men instead, maybe that would teach all the guys a lesson about how we women feel when our partners watch porn or series or movies with nudity in them.
Any advice guys? I just don’t know what to do, and I’ve had several conversations that started with me thinking he was checking out other women when he wasn’t (or that’s what he told me) but then again why would he do all the other stuff for me if he didn’t love me? Maybe what he says is true? Maybe he really isn’t into other women or watchea porn or anything. But then again, that just feels like a dream rather than reality.