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betterinrecovery
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby betterinrecovery » Tue Oct 23, 2018 4:12 pm

Dear Maisi and Chris,
Hello to you both and to anyone else reading this post.
Being here is a treat - I have been busy in the garden and now for some nice times writing here.
I have been to the garden and harvested the nasturtium leaves ahead of the frost threat.
Now I have wilting leaves overflowing the in the sink.
I plan to blanch them and freeze them and use them as I would spinach.
I have swept the leaves up as best as I can, knowing that there will be another lot to sweep up in a day or so.
while trying to get rid of weeds growing on the paving stones at the front :?
A complete stranger stopped to chat, he said to take it easy and why didn't I use a weed killer.
Kindness of strangers.

Maisi, I like the idea of the 21 seasoning salute, I wonder if there are specialist American groceries shops here that might sell it.
Or even import it on request.

About the central heating: I have been putting the central heating on in short bursts for a while, only because this house tends to be rather cold, it is often warmer outside than it is indoors :roll:
So I am often employing the wonderful invention that is the hot water bottle: I sit watching TV with one wedged round my back and another on my lap.

I have made my penultimate batch of green tomato chutney. Chopping up the veg, making it and bottling up has been a bit of an ordeal.
I didn't have the head space to work out what I needed to do.
In the end I just had to say up until 4am chopping and blending the veg.....
The results are good though.
B

maisi
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby maisi » Tue Oct 23, 2018 8:29 pm

I think you've inspired me, talking about gardening. Today I actually set foot on the allotment having been too upset to go since Spring. No-one about, lovely and peaceful, sad to see how overgrown it is, but really a good reminder what a healthy way to spend time, I'll be back soon with my tools and gloves, I love it there. If it was partly reading your post, you've worked a small miracle for me :D

I think I've got a chest infection. Taking vit C, feeling exhausted, hearty cough, hot and cold.

I'm slightly awestruck by your chutney laboratory- 4am though!!

betterinrecovery
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby betterinrecovery » Wed Oct 24, 2018 2:10 pm

Dear Maisi,

Well, at it is I am well and truly sick of the chutney. the house reeked of vinegar.I reeked of vinegar...I shall be o.k. in a day or two. :lol:

I am glad that you feel inspired to go back to the allotment. I suppose while you have a have a chest infection you would be best keeping warm and well fed and taking vitamin c like you have said.

Monty Don did his last gardening show for the year this last weekend. I waved at the screen while my husband made a funny noise in the back ground, I shall not be taking any notice of the funny noises from the husband.

I have been eating nasturtium flowers :D
to my surprise they are quite yummy peppery followed by a very sweet nectar taste.

that's it for now,
I hope you look after you and your health.
B

betterinrecovery
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby betterinrecovery » Fri Oct 26, 2018 9:24 am

Dear Chris and Maisi
I have a problem,
Definitely not feeling too good just now. :mrgreen:
to alleviate my distress, I am drinking camomile tea and I am writing here. I have turned down volume on the TV
and out of the corner of my eye I can see a pile of knitting wool and nearly finished projects too stressed to sort 'em out.
maybe writing to you folks will be a way of clearing my head, I extremely stressed :cry: and haven't felt this way since I came off my meds.

The trigger, as I think it is called, is my relationship with a lady I know locally, and with whom I became friends.
She is ultra religious. ( Christian faith).
Well, I have been to some of the services in her fellwship, but it is not really for me. I intended to go on occasion, just to be sociable.

We kept in touch on Whatsapp - a very useful tool in my view, How did we ever manage without it?
Anyway, people can send photos, voice files, films e.t.c. via whats app and it is all very nice.
I do as well. I can keep up with my family is different parts of the world this way.

Well, this ultra religious lady started sending me videos of people burning in Hell and such.
Then also a short film about people that might be witches - no explanation just these awful films.

I did not open the last film that was sent from her number, but now I have become very stressed and nervy and jumpy.

I think maybe I need to confront her, no not confront her, just speak to her and tell her how awful I felt after seeing those films.
I feel really ill. I feeel she has abused my friendhsip and my trust.
there seems alot of this about.

Any ideas on how I can bring healing and peace of mind into my head ?
I feel really vulnerable and ill.

B

betterinrecovery
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby betterinrecovery » Fri Oct 26, 2018 9:30 am

p.s.
I have let this issue fester for a few months - I think I should have nipped things in the bud earlier.
I feel really rough. :mrgreen:
B

christabel
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby christabel » Fri Oct 26, 2018 7:10 pm

Hi b just a quick response. It sounds to me as though the women in question has a big problem so don't make yourself Ill.

Have you though perhaps she is needing help of some sort and it nothing directed at you. Hope you feel better to cope with it soon.
Take care. X Chris

Hi maisi hope you are feeling a little better. Look after yourself. X Chris

maisi
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby maisi » Fri Oct 26, 2018 9:29 pm

Hi Chris and B,

I'm sorry to hear it, you really don't need hassles like that. It's not surprising when you're working hard to keep yourself in balance, that something like that could unsettle you. I agree with Christabel that it's probably about this woman's own issues and views, and she's probably ignorant of the effect it has on you,. Maybe she doesn't realise it's not ok to send things like that because of the strength of her religious conviction combined with something odd about her personality. If you feel ok to do so, and find the right words, it's a good idea to let her know the messages aren't helpful. Maybe she's trying to pressure you into being more involved with that church.

Remind yourself that you know who you are and what you believe, and that these messages are not part of your views. And that some people are downright odd, and you have the right not to be disturbed by them. I'm sending my support for you to find the right way to shake this issue off you- it's not your problem and you could do without it. Let us know how things go with this issue, if you want.

Are there any other churches you can spend time at that would be less...whatever this one is? Some of them do sound quite extreme or pushy, and I'm sure some others are very good.

Thanks both of you for the 'get well' type messages. My sleep has become so poor that I'm not sure what's viral and what's exhaustion, and also I do rely on wine at night, as you may have noticed. But yep the jumpers are out, vitamin c...and the best bit? meeting my baby nephew for the 1st time, as he lives abroad, and getting a wonderful series of smiles and baby noises that I'm convinced were his side of a very deep conversation between us- about what, I'm not sure.

Whatsapp is brilliant, I agree.

Ah well, let Monty Don hibernate and he'll be back fresh faced in the Spring!

x

betterinrecovery
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby betterinrecovery » Sun Oct 28, 2018 1:29 pm

Hello Chris and Maisi
I posted here yesterday and then lost it all...internet connection in house has been on the blink for some time.
Perhaps now I will ring them up and get it sorted.
I have just read how having hot baths can/may ease depression.

https://www.msn.com/en-gb/health/mindan ... spartandhp


on the scale of 1 to 10 I am on a 8 just now.
Racing thoughts, panic attacks, low mood the whole package, so thank you both for your messages here.
I am going to have a hot bath then I have to go out.

What I need/want to do is print labels for my chutney jars.

So I am having a rough time of it, I hope you are doing better than this.

B

maisi
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby maisi » Sun Oct 28, 2018 6:24 pm

Hi B,

I'm sending loads of support and good wishes to you, across the patchy internet. Hope you have some good ways of trying to reduce anxiety and panic? Hot baths sound like a great idea, I find looking at a candle flame soothing too. As long as it's not balanced on a pile of newspapers, that would add some anxiety :)

There's a breathing exercise I've found helpful. In the link, there's some waffle then actual instructions about half way down the page:

https://www.healthline.com/health/4-7-8-breathing#3

Be gentle with yourself, and don't forget it will pass

Maisi x

christabel
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Re: Cooking for Comfort

Postby christabel » Tue Oct 30, 2018 11:43 am

Hi to you both.

Looks like I've picked up the chest virus that is around. The steroids have made my immune system weak so anything the family get I join in.

Had intention of cooking healthy meals instead of calorie loaded cakes etc. Blood test was not good at doctors and having to have it re taken. Getting myself into the right mind set is the hardest part.

I must admit I was thinking food was the only thing of enjoyment in my life at the mo. One way another it has been a horrible year.

I hope you are feeling a bit stronger b and that you are over your chest infection maisi. Take care. X Chris


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