Hi Ariane. When I first met him he was seeing his children once a week, had a house, a job and was happy, we were happy. It was only after his ex found a new partner about a year after that the false allegations, refusal to facilitate contact and long long court process started. I don’t doubt this s...

Hi everyone So I’ve stuck to not instigating contact. Since last Saturday he instigated a long conversation via Skype while the football was on, totally normal and about the football, but that’s all. I’ve not suggested going over this weekend, if I don’t it will feel odd as I’ve seen him every weeke...

Hi Mr B We talked daily, mostly he initiated conversation. I don’t really have any plans to see him again so boundaries aren’t an option. I was clear from the outset ‘just friends’ was a short term thing hoping he would get help. He did agree to but then never followed it up. I’m tired of it all now...

Thanks Arwen and Ariane xx I’m feeling OK. I think I did all my mourning for us 7 months ago. I didn’t contact him at all yesterday. I got a brief message from him early this morning asking how I am, I haven’t replied yet, I don’t know if I will. Maybe he’s realising I’m all he’s got, he doesn’t rea...

Thank you James x

Hi Mr B I guess there was an element of cruelty there, he blames everything on his situation and depression but maybe there are other issues too. I honestly didn’t dictate anything to him. I just sent a message early Friday morning saying I wanted to treat him to a nice meal on Saturday but I had to...

Hi everyone I’m OK thank you. I’m feeling a bit like you Mimosas, I’ve got to the point now where I don’t think I really care If he wants me in his life or not. He’s not the man I love at all. I know yesterday he was writing his statement of response to the pyschologists report before he met me whic...

Thank you for the birthday wishes xx Well today wasn’t a good day at all. He was deliberately late meeting me as he said I was dictating to him what time we should meet, I really wasn’t, I had to book and table and taxi and I did tell him well in advance. Despite that we had a nice lunch and a few d...

Glad things are going so well Ariane xx I’m off to see my man today. I’ve booked us a table at a nice Indian street food restaurant for lunch and I’ve even managed to persuade him to get out of bed before midday to meet me. Well it didn’t take much persuasion so I’m thinking he’s in a good mood too....

Hi Mr B I would send a message but keep it light, one thing I’ve learned over the past 7 months is depressed people can’t be reasoned with and if you make them feel pressured they retreat and push you further away. I don’t think she’s angry with you I just think she can’t deal with the pressure of a...