Hi Caringlove I’m in a similar situation. After 4 years of being with my man he sent me a text message last September saying that nothing in his life made him happy, we weren’t working and he had to look after himself and shut down emotionally whoever that upset. That came totally out of the blue an...

Hi Ariane

In my experience doctors and counsellors are totally useless. I hope he can find a far more sympathetic GP.

I’m feeling really down today, I think the feelings of total rejection have set in. I know it’s not my fault or me but I still feel sad.

Lille xx

Hi Arwen I’m glad you are feeling so much better, you are my inspiration and I hope to feel much better soon too xx Ariane, also glad things are OK with you. I hope your guy gets back on his meds, how did he manage to run out? Don’t GPS keep an eye on these things as it’s so important people take th...

Hi James Glad things are feeling better for you. I’m not doing so well. Went to see him yesterday. He had been out with his hard drinking mates the night before so couldn’t even get out of bed until 1.00. Just for once he was happy to let me talk about how I feel so I was very honest. I told him jus...

Hi Scn I’ve been in your position for 8 months now. I got exactly the same story from my man, he loved me as a friend but nothing more, he still cared about me and didn’t want to loose me, he wanted to stay just friends but couldn’t promise he would ever love me as anything more than that. We were t...

Hi Mr B I’m with you on the false hope thing. I almost wish he had just cut me off totally way back in September. Instead we meet up every week, chat frequently on Skype, text and call, we hug, kiss and to the outside world act like we are very together. But when I tell him I love him he looks at me...

Hi Ariane Really really pleased for you. I’m so glad he was brave enough to get help and that you are now officially his girlfriend again xx Well the not drinking didn’t last sadly. He went out to a club night with his seriously unhelpful heavy drinking friends last night and didn’t get back in unti...

Hi Ariane Yes we did meet up for an hour or so. I didn’t hear from him until 4.00 though and was about to give up when I got a message saying he had been in bed with a migraine so couldn’t meet for lunch. We had a few drinks and a chat, he hugged and kissed me goodbye and said he was going clubbing ...

Hi everyone Well he did contact me eventually and as I suspected he had received court paperwork that made him feel despondent. We always used to read through that stuff together because he never sees the good in anything and I can. But he reads it alone, gets more and more down and sends me snippet...

Thanks James

As a naturally positive person too I still have hope that if the court orders contact, which is pretty much guaranteed, he will feel better very quickly and we can start again. I won’t give up totally until after the hearing.

Have a lovely Easter weekend.

Lillie xx