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by spoonyspoon
Wed Oct 24, 2018 12:22 am
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

Maybe it is your profile that is wrong Maybe you can do a better picture - black and white with a half shadow - or high and coming downwards Different backgrounds - to reflect your interests - outside is different from slumped in a chair - or in a cafe with people behind you etc You can blur them o...
by spoonyspoon
Mon Oct 22, 2018 11:48 pm
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

Look lets say you are ugly - maybe that is true maybe that is not - and at the end of the day there is no fixed definition of beauty or ugly You come over well on the forum - except you are on a downer about your looks So maybe it is not looks but aspects of your personality face to face Maybe you ...
by spoonyspoon
Sun Sep 23, 2018 9:36 pm
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

To BetterInRecovery: As much as I appreciate your response in this thread, it seems as though your entire approach is to promote therapy and related services, your responses seem like a template, and even your name is a bit of a giveaway. I have listed in this very thread the reasons I don't see tha...
by spoonyspoon
Sat Sep 22, 2018 1:39 pm
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

I haven't inferred that at all. Your issues are psychological, not psychosomatic. I don't believe so. The only issue in my life is that women are not attracted to me, or even a digital representation of my self. And for as many times as I've asked, I've still not had a clear answer on how counselli...
by spoonyspoon
Thu Sep 20, 2018 9:05 pm
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

I can't see a single comment in this thread where i've told you to "think happy thoughts" or to "believe in yourself more". I've tried to suggest to you that perhaps you have tunnel vision about this issue and that viewing it from different perspectives might help you to get uns...
by spoonyspoon
Sun Sep 16, 2018 5:37 pm
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

You're completely missing the point with all this. Well, I've described to you a physical problem, and so far the response has been "...but if you think happy thoughts it will go away!" and now you're telling me I'M missing the point? As I keep asking; explain to me how it's my thought pr...
by spoonyspoon
Sun Sep 16, 2018 3:40 pm
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

Best case scenario, as smiley has already said, it can help you to identify unhelpful thinking patterns and to see things from different perspectives. At the moment you have tunnel vision about this issue, also known as "black and white thinking" which means that you dismiss anything that...
by spoonyspoon
Sat Sep 15, 2018 7:47 pm
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

I don't think it's about a professional solving the problem, but it might be useful for you to look at counselling or CBT and unhelpful thinking patterns if this is making you feel this way. I don't understand how it would be useful. I'm not against therapy as a practice, but I don't see how it app...
by spoonyspoon
Thu Sep 13, 2018 7:36 am
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Re: Suicidal Because Ugly

Hi Spoonyspoon, Reading this really struck a chord with me due to my own confidence issues and I'm really sorry you feel this way and these things seem like they always happen to you. I want to say to you that confidence is a very attractive quality, that even the least confident of us can achieve....
by spoonyspoon
Sun Sep 09, 2018 9:56 pm
Forum: Safe Room
Topic: Suicidal Because Ugly
Replies: 26
Views: 7948

Suicidal Because Ugly

Well, that's the catchy headline, obviously there's a little more to it than this. In short, I'm 26, male, 5 foot 10, about 165lbs in pretty reasonable shape. I'm fully employed, I have a bunch of wonderful friends, eat healthily and exercise regularly, and enjoy other hobbies. On paper, I should fe...

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