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by scn
Tue Apr 24, 2018 8:21 am
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 78647

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

I'd be keen to join too if that's OK. What's App is cool with me xx
by scn
Fri Apr 20, 2018 10:46 am
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 78647

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Same Lillie - I've got messages where he can hardly express how lucky he feels to have me and how I've made such a positive difference to his life. We had a blazer on the phone last night. I rang him to see how he was and he'd just got back from the pub. Has he taken any steps towards recovery in th...
by scn
Tue Apr 17, 2018 3:48 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 78647

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Thanks Arwen, that's interesting. I had suspected it might be the case with my ex (i'm a second year trainee therapist*) but with the drug addiction and depression it's too hard to tell. Anyway, I'd never diagnose clients, merely assess them and it would be completely unethical for me to behave as i...
by scn
Tue Apr 17, 2018 11:30 am
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 78647

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Arwen I took a lot of comfort from your post. The 'wind down' period in my relationship was the same - about six weeks of him getting steadily worse and less communicative. There is no evidence he's looking for a replacement - on the contrary he is so badly affected by his childhood abandonment stuf...
by scn
Mon Apr 16, 2018 2:18 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 78647

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Hi Ariane, Yes it does sound very familiar, doesn't it? I think what I am coming to realise is that it's impossible to nurture people out of their depression. As much as they will be triggered and revert, insisting they don't want or need any support, the fact of the matter is human beings DO need t...
by scn
Mon Apr 16, 2018 12:53 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 78647

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

I did have something of a breakthrough moment when I explained to him he is acting the way he is because of his childhood abandonment issues. They were triggered the first time we split up - after I told him I loved him. We were apart for three months but reconciled, with him thanking me profusely f...
by scn
Mon Apr 16, 2018 8:43 am
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away
Replies: 930
Views: 78647

Re: Depressed boyfriend has pushed me away

Hello everyone, I too have had a very bad weekend. I feel like I'm having a nervous breakdown and wish I had the strength and emotional resilience to just walk away. I saw him last night and stayed over. Lots of crying, him being irrational and me losing my temper. Then sleeping in each others arms....
by scn
Fri Apr 13, 2018 3:20 pm
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend is emotionally flatlining
Replies: 13
Views: 1406

Re: Depressed boyfriend is emotionally flatlining

Hi Ariane, This is hauntingly familiar. We too met online and he is also crippled with low self esteem. He's 39 and he says he's never had a 'proper' relationship before. When we were together he told me he thought he had been in love before, but that what we had was so different and so special, he ...
by scn
Thu Apr 12, 2018 11:55 am
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend is emotionally flatlining
Replies: 13
Views: 1406

Re: Depressed boyfriend is emotionally flatlining

Thanks Lillie. I don't know how long you have been on these boards, but has anyone had it work out for them after something like this?
by scn
Tue Apr 10, 2018 9:07 am
Forum: Family, Friends and Carers
Topic: Depressed boyfriend is emotionally flatlining
Replies: 13
Views: 1406

Re: Depressed boyfriend is emotionally flatlining

Thanks Lillie. The only thing I can console myself with is that I did everything I possibly could to support him. From practical research on therapies and medications to squeezing oranges for him in the morning so he'd have something nice to wake up to. That's important to me because the 'what if I ...

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